The child fell in love! Is it joy or sadness for the parents? All parents have different attitudes towards children's love, someone takes it skeptically, someone tries to play a joke once again. But there are those who categorically forbid children to meet, motivating this by the fact that before falling in love, you need to finish school, get an education, and so on.
Can teenagers fall in love seriously?
Parents should remember once and for all that all the loves of their children are completely sincere - even in kindergarten, when a boy falls in love with a girl, because she gave him a paddle for a walk, and even more so in adolescence.
At the age of 14-15, hormonal changes begin in the child's body. The girl begins to feel like a girl, a man begins to awaken in the boy. They begin to show interest in the opposite sex, and this is natural.
Another question is that the choice of the chosen one may not triple the parents, but neither prohibitions nor exhortations will help here. Moreover, punitive measures can only cause hostility towards the parents on the part of the child, and the continuation of the relationship, but already secretly. Even if it is quite obvious that the chosen one is clearly not suitable for the child, you can neither put pressure on him, nor, even more so, ridicule and humiliate a friend in his eyes.
How to deal with a teenager in love
Ideal if there is friendship and understanding in the family, and the child is used to sharing all his secrets with his parents. But this is not common. But wise and tactful parents are still more common.
First of all, it is worth giving the children the opportunity to meet at home. This is, firstly, a convenient excuse to get to know the chosen one better, and secondly, it will be possible to unobtrusively point out to your child the shortcomings in the upbringing of a friend, if any, and also suggest trying to fix them by joint efforts.
As a rule, the first love is the brightest, and children are confident that a happy future awaits them. You should not disbelieve them of this, life itself will put everything in its place. But if children are seriously making a plan for the future, moreover, for the near future, then it is necessary to make it clear to them, moreover, you can even have a joint conversation that a family is work and love alone is not enough to create it.
No need to listen to their appeals to the classics - Juliet was 14 years old, but according to the traditions of that time, she was already considered an old maid, and "ladies younger than her already had children." The boy can be asked how he is going to support his family, where he plans to bring his young wife. The girl should be explained that cooking, washing, cleaning is one of the important aspects of family life. It is unlikely that, planning to unite their destinies, they thought about everyday life. Addressing practical questions will get them thinking.
At the same time, they should be promised all kinds of assistance in creating a family, as soon as they acquire the skills of independence. The absence of prohibitions and parental support will calm the children, and their relationship will turn into a calm channel, and most likely, into pure childhood friendship.
