To create an ideal family, love alone will not be enough - this is a building, in the construction of which both partners take part, who will need a lot of patience and a desire to hear and understand each other. Both husband and wife should be aware of their responsibility, especially after the children have appeared in the family.
Instructions
Step 1
Family ties are a voluntary union. You should strive to ensure that this union does not become a heavy burden for you. Build your relationship on mutual trust and learn to find compromises. Do not set unrealizable conditions for each other in advance, do not make a tragedy out of every little thing, single out and appreciate the main thing - your love, trust, desire to be together.
Step 2
Share your responsibilities, do not count which of you contributed a lot to the well-being of the family or to the upbringing of children. You must understand that you are doing one common cause, and your family, your home, your children are your common merit. You are not only lovers - you are companions who are always ready to help each other.
Step 3
Leave yourself and your spouse a personal space, give the opportunity to be alone. There is nothing wrong with that, and it is not a sign of cooling feelings. The desire to be alone or to spend time with a close friend, girlfriend is inherent in many people, you should not limit them in this.
Step 4
Do not deprive the children of the pleasure of being with you - take them into your life - devote your free time to them, take them with you on trips, on vacation. Such a joint pastime literally cements the family. During a joint vacation, it will be pleasant and useful for both you and your children to fulfill the traditional roles that parents play in the life and upbringing of children. Each such trip is a source of memories and the most vivid impressions. Don't deprive yourself of pleasure.
Step 5
Do not involve your parents in solving family problems and do not let them make decisions for you. Both of you are adults, quite capable of taking responsibility and supporting yourself on your own. Only you two have to decide all the issues that concern your family.
Step 6
Talk to each other, express your claims, explain yourself. Learn to listen to each other, respond to words, and try to accommodate your spouse's wishes. Do not accumulate claims and grievances, do not be silent and do not sulk - explain yourself, coming to an understanding and a common solution.
Step 7
An ideal family is the daily creative work of two loving people. This is a difficult and painstaking work, but its result will be a calm, benevolent, filled with love and trust atmosphere in your home, confidence in each other and in your future.
