For many people, starting a family, having and raising children is the main goal in life. But we all see examples before our eyes when family life becomes hard labor, and people prefer to divorce so as not to torment each other. How to create a happy family, so that it becomes for all its members support and a source of joy and strength, which is needed in order to preserve feelings for life - the answers to these questions were given to psychologists by couples who succeeded.
Instructions
Step 1
Decide if you need children together. If the answer is yes, outline a timeline for when you plan to have your first and second children. Analyze whether the spending on them is really so exorbitant in order to postpone their appearance indefinitely. In fact, the sooner this happens, the sooner you will have really common concerns about their upbringing and the joy of success in it.
Step 2
Listen to the comments your spouse makes to you and work to correct them. Carelessness, carelessness, and non-observance of hygiene rules can be ignored only during a period of violent passion, so that this does not become the reason for divorce - eradicate these shortcomings. And give up smoking and alcohol, especially if one of you is sick of them.
Step 3
Trust and support each other. Do not let your parents or friends into your personal life, even if their motives are the most disinterested and are driven by love. Solve your family problems yourself and discuss everything that worries you in the family. Your family for each of you should become a place where he will always find understanding and support.
Step 4
Share or do family responsibilities together. Understand that if one of you refuses to fulfill them, then they automatically fall on the shoulders of the other. And do not make scandals, maybe fatigue or forgetfulness is to blame for everything, just ask them to be carried out in a timely manner. Remember: no matter who is the head of the family, it is important who is responsible for what.
Step 5
Learn to forgive one another. Mistakes are inevitable for anyone. If they are followed by sincere repentance and a desire to make amends, then forgive and never remember your spouse about them. The ability to save your family and not succumb to circumstances and momentary impulses will help you maintain your family happiness, because it is worth it.
