“All happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way” - this is how the novel “Anna Karenina” begins. With all due respect to the great writer and thinker L. N. Tolstoy, one can argue with this statement.
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Step 1
There are many families that are unlike literally everyone - material wealth, the attitude of spouses to each other and to children, orders, habits, hobbies. However, they are happy! That is, every happy family is also happy in its own way. But why is this happening? All people differ from each other in character, and habits, and upbringing. It is absurd to expect that in different families spouses will behave in the same way, talk in the same way, do household chores, raise children, spend leisure time, etc. Of course, they will do it in their own way, based on their own ideas about what is right and what is not, character, upbringing, habits. The main thing is that they treat each other with love and respect, then the family may well be happy.
Step 2
People also have different needs. One family is content with a modest income, while the other needs a spacious home, the opportunity to regularly relax at foreign resorts, shop in expensive stores, and visit fashionable restaurants and clubs. If in either case the spouses have the opportunity to meet these needs, they will be content and happy.
Step 3
Each family also has its own system of life priorities. There are many couples for whom the greatest happiness is to raise healthy, intelligent and well-rounded children. But there are also families where work and career are in the first place. Although such spouses can also love their children and take care of them in every possible way. And someone does not think of happiness without the opportunity to engage in their favorite hobby, creativity. Any standards, templates are not applicable here. But in all cases, spouses can sincerely consider themselves happy.
Step 4
Finally, we must not forget about the difference in temperaments. For family happiness, an emotional, impressionable person must often hear words of love, feel signs of attention, care from a partner, receive gifts from him, even if modest, hear compliments. Without this, he does not feel happy, he may doubt the sincerity of his spouse's feelings. And a calmer, restrained person does not need such frequent and emotional manifestations of love, attention and gratitude (although, of course, kind words and gifts are pleasant to him). Nevertheless, he can be just as happy in marriage, he just feels love, he does not need proof and is not important.
