When fate brings a man and a woman together, they do not even realize that they are attracted to each other for a reason. The choice of a person is guided, first of all, by the experience spied on in the parental family. The past generation passes on to the next generation information about the need for love, participation, and respect. These needs, brought by each person of their kind, are found in pairs in the form of conflicts and contradictions. Therefore, it is important for men and women to enter into relationships prepared and aware of what a harmonious love union is built on.
Each of the partners wants to receive attention to themselves in the relationship
People will find happiness with each other only if there is a constant exchange of attention in a couple. This is required by everyone who enters into a love relationship. When one of the partners is deprived of attention, quarrels, conflicts, claims begin. A man wants to be an object of admiration for a woman and a guiding star. He expects her to agree in everything and takes the initiative, trying to involve in his life, to make an impression. For example, he invites him to visit a movie, a restaurant, a resort.
But there is always a chance that a woman will disagree, thereby destroying a man's dreams of attention. He can make several attempts, but if he refuses, sooner or later, he will lose interest in such a lady. And a woman who is not called anywhere and is ignored is disappointed in her beau. In her reading, a man who has failed to conquer and captivate the object of his sympathy is just a weakling. But he is no less disappointed than the capricious partner, who rejected all attempts to attract attention. Such a woman automatically falls into the category of bitches for a man.
If the exchange of attention has been successfully established, a special bond begins to form in the couple.
Relationships are characterized by a constant exchange of energy
As you know, in nature, energy does not arise out of nowhere and does not disappear into nowhere. Likewise, in relationships, the bond that originated in a couple connects people with invisible energy flows. She circulate between a man and a woman, alternately, filling each with energy, then depriving them of their last strength. That is why, when one is moping and suffering, the other is lucky, which plunges the first into even more despondency.
You can resist this exhausting addiction if you realize and feel its depth. Mentally return to your partner his emotions in relation to you, and take your own back to yourself. As soon as someone in a couple no longer wants to give their love and affection, the connection is severed.
The separation of a man from his mother is the key to a happy marriage
For many years, the mother remains the main woman in her son's life and, at times, it is very difficult for her to step aside in time when he wants to start a family. Even in an adult woman, at heart, a little girl continues to live, hindered by fears and doubts about the fate of her boy.
In distrust of the beloved son lies the desire to manage his life herself, to remain needed as long as possible. She draws her matured child into a dangerous addiction that prevents him from becoming stronger, smarter, more courageous. In other words, manipulative mothers prevent their sons from growing psychologically. For many, this turns into alcoholism.
Therefore, it is important for a man to free himself from maternal influence, overcome this dependence, and only then build love relationships.
The weaker a man is in a relationship with a woman, the more comfortable it is for her
The task of a strong man is to study, learn, overcome obstacles, discover the secrets of the Cosmos, and then carry this knowledge to the feet of his beloved. Only then does he feel right and in his place. And a woman, quite naturally, wants to be the Cosmos for him, a puzzle that, when solved, opens up new and new facets to the partner. She needs a man to be carried away by this process forever, so that he does not even have the thought of choosing another object for study (that is, deciding to cheat).
Then the woman decides to protect herself, controls every step of the partner and does not let go anywhere. If he tries to object, he makes a scandal and threatens to break up. Accepting the female rules of the game, a man weakens, loses interest in knowledge. He loses his main mission, gradually turning into a mama's son in such a relationship. Further, the extinction of sexual attraction is inevitable. Although the woman, of course, is satisfied that she has protected herself from cheating.
Only the love of a woman can give a man a powerful stimulus for growth
Development, maturation, growth of a man in a relationship is possible only under the influence of female love. She feeds her companion with positive energy, faith in his exceptional qualities that can ensure the success of any business. By definition, a man does not become strong, a woman allows him to feel that way. The more she admires him, the more reliably she grabs the attention of a loved one.
And a man who has achieved success, in turn, shares it with his inspirer. By the way, in addition to the wife or life partner, mother is also suitable for this role. As soon as the flow of love and attention dries up, the man stops growing. Therefore, instead of reproaching women whose partners are experiencing material difficulties, it is necessary to learn to love and inspire them.
Supporting the development of a partner is one of the main signs of love
When people in a couple have enough attention from each other, they want development for themselves and for their half. If this does not happen, they have an unequal relationship - a slave and a master. The master will torment and limit his slave in development, and he will humbly endure. However, a pathetic attempt to rise at the expense of a partner will not turn the weak into a strong personality. One must either run away from such a person, or wait for his slow painful rebirth.
Vices of a man are a reflection of a woman's inner pain
As already mentioned, a man and a woman build their relationship in an inextricable connection with the history of past generations. Even in a difficult, exhausting relationship, where alcoholism, tyranny, and assault thrive, partners need each other for something. Perhaps in this way they repeat the life path of their ancestors, trying to solve their inherited problems. Moreover, in this unhealthy relationship, two sides suffer - the tormentor and his victim. After all, they both bear the imprint of the history of the clan, it's just that each one will have his own.
A man wins when a woman gives up, but for her this path is also a winning one
Male and female energies circulate in different planes. The stronger sex always strives upward, following the streams of its vertical energy. And women are more down-to-earth, their strength spreads in a horizontal plane, as if spreading along the ground. And somewhere here, pushing off from a solid surface, these life streams of two people intersect. They can be compared to the earth and the tree, which, rooted in the soil, seeks to reach the sun. So a woman gives her partner the strength for new victories and growth. When each is paired in his place, both feel at ease and right.
If the opposite happens, and the man is below, such an earthquake brings anxiety to the relationship. A partner will not be able to stay near such a woman for a long time, like people leaving the zones of seismic activity. A desert is formed around the wrong feminine energy. After all, everyone wants to live on a calm wide plain, where it is quiet and serene. Moreover, not only men are drawn to such a woman, but also friends, relatives, colleagues.
A man sculpts his ideal from a woman, but she wants to get it right away
A woman needs an assistant who will open the world to her and teach her to know herself. She is looking for this in a man, and he, on the contrary, needs a partner who listens to his every word. That is why, by devaluing the merits of a loved one, a woman receives discontent and resentment. Only she is able to turn a man into that very ideal, giving her attention and not skimping on recognition of merit, praise, encouragement. Therefore, we must not forget to feed it with our enthusiastic energy. Then your relationship will be calm, harmonious, fruitful.
