There are several crisis periods in the development of a child, in which he is especially emotionally unstable, which often leads to hysterics, which are troublesome not only for the mother, but also for the baby. The reason can be anything from extreme fear to refusal to buy a new typewriter. There is no universal recipe for counteracting this behavior; every child is different. But there are several methods that can be effective for such tantrums.
Necessary
- - ability to analyze the situation;
- - patience.
Instructions
Step 1
If your child has a tantrum, it is important to remain calm and not annoyed. Children feel mother's emotions very well. Realize that the child is not trying to manipulate you, he simply cannot cope with his feelings, since his brain is not yet sufficiently developed for this.
Step 2
If the hysteria happened in a crowded place, try to provide yourself and your baby with at least some privacy - there is absolutely no need for extra spectators. Often they also want to express their opinion, which can further inflame the situation.
Step 3
Sit next to your child so that your eyes are level with theirs. You can take the child's hands in yours if he agrees to it. Show your child that you are with him, that you want to understand him and help him understand himself.
Step 4
Identify the feeling the child is experiencing now. Say "you are upset", "you are scared", maybe something else, depending on the situation. Intonations should not be interrogative, but rather affirmative, it is important to show that you understand the feelings of the child. You can try to clarify the cause of the disorder using the same affirmative-sympathetic intonations, this may work, but it may not work if the child is emotionally charged.
Step 5
In most cases, after such actions, the child's hysterics turns into either reassurance or upset tears. At this moment, hug the child, tell him that you sympathize with him, that you feel sorry for him.
Step 6
Try some alternative that you can suggest. This does not mean that you need to indulge the child in everything, but there are situations in which you can give in. If you think that this is not possible, explain to your child why you are not ready to fulfill his desires.
Step 7
Think, maybe the reason for this behavior lies not in what caused the tantrum. It happens that the child begins to react very nervously to any little things when he is hungry, tired or wants to go to the toilet. At the same time, he does not understand why the discomfort came from, and cannot adequately respond to your actions. Once this discomfort is removed, the child's behavior immediately changes. In the future, make sure that the child is well-fed and rested in advance.
Step 8
After the child has calmed down, help him release his emotions. You can run, dance, jump on the bed. It will also help you to relieve emotional stress.
