Pregnancy is often easier to tell adults than children. Fearing the child's reaction, adults for a long time cannot decide to communicate good news or do not know how to make the child correctly perceive the future event.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, before you tell your son about the second pregnancy, you need to take into account the age of the first child. If the child is small, it is better to postpone the explanation, otherwise he will stay long enough in anticipation of something incomprehensible, nervous. It is more correct to postpone the news of pregnancy until the situation becomes noticeable. When the baby already knows about the upcoming birth, it is better for him to correlate the date of birth of his brother or sister with any time of the year. This will clarify and relieve the child from constant questions about the expected addition to the family.
Step 2
When a child is older and can already understand the current situation, you should not hide the symptoms of pregnancy from him. The boy needs to be explained what happens when a new life is born, and there is no need to worry about his mother's health. In the case of a calm course of pregnancy, it is better to say good news to the child in the second trimester, when the threat of miscarriage disappears.
Step 3
When talking with a child, you do not need to mislead him with promises that the baby will love and play with his older brother (sister). Most likely, your eldest son will be disappointed when he realizes that he will not be able to do anything with the baby at first. The elder should immediately explain the real situation: the baby will be helpless, and he will need the care and increased attention of the parents. But the help of a senior will also be needed. This will make the child feel important, you must agree, he will be pleased to know that he will be instructed to help in caring for the younger one. It is important to note that with the replenishment of the first child in the family, they will not stop loving and will not change their attitude towards him.
Step 4
Having explained to the child about the appearance of the baby, it is necessary to continue to support this topic in various conversations, for example, to tell the boy about brothers and sisters in familiar families. Walking with a child, you can pay attention to other children who are younger than him, making it clear that the little ones are defenseless, weak and need care not only from the mother and father, but also from the older brother or sister.
Step 5
The child needs to be entrusted with not too difficult everyday tasks so that he feels like an adult, businesslike. Let your son look after a pregnant mother just like a father does. Before birth, making out a room for a future baby, it will be right to involve the elder in participation in order to eliminate his jealousy. After returning home from the hospital, it will be a pleasant surprise to celebrate the baby's birthday with an older child and present gifts. The most important thing is to inform the child that the parents will not stop loving him and will give their love to him on a par with the baby.
