The woman is the first to know that there will be a baby soon, after which she has to decide how to tell the guy about pregnancy. Such important information needs to be communicated with preparation, especially if the child is not planned.
Long-awaited pregnancy
If a couple has been trying to conceive a child for a long time, and finally succeeded, you can arrange a holiday. Prepare a delicious dinner, dress nicely, do your makeup and hair to be beautiful in this moment. When he asks about the reasons, you can put your hands on your stomach and say that there will be three of you soon.
You can use more original ways. For example, give him booties, a pacifier, a bottle or other things that are related to the child. Or use a forgotten communication method - a telegram. Just write “I'm expecting a baby,” or put it in a funny way, like “I'll be there in 9 months. Stork". You can also buy a postcard "For Dad".
If the child is not planned
But if you became pregnant not from long unsuccessful attempts to conceive a child with your husband, but unscheduled, then you should prepare for a conversation. First, say that you have a delay and see how he reacts. Most likely, from it you can already predict the reaction to the message about pregnancy.
Take time for this important conversation. Men perceive information more positively if they have eaten, slept, rested after work and are in no hurry. Catch a moment like this and start a serious conversation, but without the dramatic introduction of "we need to talk." Remind me of the delay, and inform that your expectations were fulfilled - you are pregnant. Then give the floor to him.
Do not be afraid if he does not immediately cry out with joy. It takes a while for him to recover from such overwhelming news, so don't rush him. If he will be silent for more than 10 minutes or if he tries to change the subject, tell him that you need to discuss it. Even if he says that he is not ready to become a father, it is better not to get involved in an argument, but just leave. This will be beneficial for your nerves and relationships. After all, a guy may change his mind, and if you utter hurtful words in a fit of a quarrel, he may not return.
The hardest part is if the guy repeatedly spoke out against the child. Breaking the news is necessary, but it can be difficult for you to say it in person. Then call him, and if you want to interrupt the conversation, just press the end call. If you want to save the child and the relationship, be prepared to defend your desires. Prepare answers to all his excuses in advance. For example, if he complains about financial problems, let him know that your friends will give away baby things, and you can earn extra money on maternity leave.
