The message that a new addition is expected in the family is a joy for most of its members, except for the eldest child. The situation is not easy, especially if a second baby is expected. The arrival of the third youngest member of the family is much calmer.
It is necessary
Pregnancy, baby
Instructions
Step 1
You should not rush to announce the replenishment of your family if the firstborn is still small enough. Upon learning that he will soon have a brother or sister, the baby will be nervous, expecting something incomprehensible. Children are poorly oriented in time, so waiting for many months can have a bad effect on the character of the first-born. Postpone the explanation until the tummy appears. And so that the child does not suffer from waiting, immediately clarify the date of birth. It is advisable to time this date to an event that is already familiar to your child. Older children can already be told that you are not feeling well. And so that the first-born does not worry about your health, you need to explain that this is normal while waiting for a brother or sister.
Step 2
Don't fool your child with an attractive, but not realistic, future scenario. Do not mislead the kid, saying that the little one will play with him, love him. After you return from the hospital, the firstborn can be very disappointed. Tell us immediately what difficulties await you. Explain that your baby will be in constant need of care and attention and will take up a lot of your time. But make a reservation that these changes will not affect the attitude towards the older child, you just will not be able to pay as much attention to him as you do now.
Step 3
As often as possible, talk about the appearance of the youngest child in the family. If you have acquaintances with two children, where the second child appeared recently.
Step 4
When walking with your child, draw his attention to younger children. let him see how helpless they are, how they need care. If the firstborn is a girl, then you can play mother-daughter with her.
Step 5
When you prepare a dowry for your unborn baby, take your firstborn with you for shopping so that he does not feel relegated to the background. Let the older child help prepare the room for the sibling-to-be. Also, it will not be superfluous to involve the baby in your hospital fees.
Step 6
When you get back from the hospital, celebrate the birthday of your new family member, but don't forget to prepare a present for your first child as well. To keep your older child from feeling abandoned, allow him to care for the younger. Just do not need to insist that the firstborn does not feel obligated.
