Even the closest person may seem like a creature from another planet, if he is a man. The misunderstanding that separates the weaker and stronger sex sometimes seems overwhelming. However, you should not blame only men for this. Perhaps it's not a lack of their eloquence, but the fact that women are not listening correctly.
Instructions
Step 1
Evaluate the man's words with reason, not feelings. In other words, think about "what" he says, not "how." Women perceive the world intuitively and when describing people and events, they speak first of all about experienced emotions, vivid experiences. Don't expect this from men. They tend to logically build a message, justify their opinion, explain the reasons and give examples. By concentrating all attention on the content of the speech, the interlocutor may neglect the form, which makes his words sound dry and inexpressive, which does not at all express a negative opinion about you personally.
Step 2
Ask for an example. What's going on in other people's heads is a mystery. And we can guess it only by indirect signs and signs, trying to find the key to someone else's way of thinking. Feel free to ask again if the man's speech seems hazy. Ask direct questions about what seemed unclear in the said phrase. Asking quietly and "from afar" can lead to the fact that the meaning of the conversation eludes both of you. Men think concretely, so it is easier for them to explain everything by example.
Step 3
Analyze not only words, but also actions. Not all men can or deem it necessary to express their feelings or desires bluntly. Always pay attention when a man's behavior changes. Unexpected praise for your culinary art at dinner or a shirt neatly tucked into the closet for the first time can mean the same "sorry" that you have been waiting for a week after an unpleasant argument.
Step 4
Learn to hear other people. Think about how often misunderstandings arise between you and your friends, work colleagues. Hearing and hearing are different skills. Not all people possess them equally. If during a conversation you are constantly waiting for your turn to speak or are thinking the following witty phrase in your head, your interlocutor has no chance of being understood.
Step 5
If you doubt that you understand a man correctly and are embarrassed to ask him for clarification, turn to another man, who you know well. A father, brother, husband, or school friend can help you better understand what your mysterious friend meant.
