Many couples break up after six months or a year. When asked why? those who parted shrug their shoulders: "Everything seemed to suit, but something did not work out." Then they admit that they regret the separation. How to behave, what to do to make the relationship last long?
Instructions
Step 1
Do not become isolated on each other.
It's good when you have mutual friends, colleagues, acquaintances. But after a while you will get tired of always being together. Give each other freedom. No one wants to return to a cramped cage, but everyone will happily return to a friendly home. In addition, having your own friends allows you not to completely dissolve in each other, but to remain independent individuals.
Step 2
Look for new points of contact.
When you first started your relationship, passion was the driving force. You bathed in love, did not get out of bed and went crazy with kisses. But now time has passed, passions have subsided, and it turned out that you have few common interests. If you are sure that the person next to you is the one you need, find new points of contact. Ask questions, get to know each other better, and you may find that both are crazy about American advertising from the 30s. If, after trying all the time, you don't find common points of contact, you can create them. Let you have a common hobby, go in for sports, go to foreign language courses, and you will be able to say words of love to each other in different dialects.
Step 3
Remember to compliment each other.
Your partner should understand that you were attracted to him not only by beauty, but also by many other qualities. Praise each other. This is never enough. If your friend is a great cook, do not get tired of admiring her culinary talents. If your partner is a great guitar player, remind you that you are crazy about his talent. Let not only sexual attraction bind you.
Step 4
Confess your love.
Words of love are generally a necessary thing. Love can be compared to a flower: if you do not take care of it, then it will perish. In the first days of your meetings, you talked about love constantly, do not forget to do this after a year of living together. Nothing cheers you up like the words “I love you”, “I can't imagine life without you”, “Without you, I feel lonely”. Agree, you will be pleased to hear this from your loved one. And do not be greedy in the manifestation of feelings yourself.
Step 5
Make general plans.
May you not only have today. Create your future yourself. For example, plan a trip together. Even if you don't even have a foreign passport yet. You can look at maps together, plan routes, learn common phrases in a foreign language, and choose a cafe where you will have breakfast.
Step 6
Don't try to remake each other.
A person is fully formed as a person by the age of 15. Strong shocks can correct character, but it remains largely unchanged. And why try to change the character of a loved one? After all, you fell in love with him exactly as he is. It is better to focus more often on positive character traits, and try not to notice unpleasant habits for you.
