All parents, without exception, believe that their child is the best, good and honest and, of course, will never be able to take someone else's, but as practice shows, this is not so. Of course, it is unpleasant to find out that the child is stealing and, accordingly, lies. But it is worth stopping and punishing only when there is evidence. There is no certainty or there is a doubt, you must first clarify, and then blame, because if this is not so, the child will get angry and stop trusting, withdraw into himself or even worse, will do it out of spite. Stealing a teenager has many reasons.
1. Impulsivity is the so-called want and take, but this, as a rule, occurs in young children, 5-7 years old. This mainly occurs in children who cannot control themselves. And this behavior goes away with age.
2. Attracting the attention of parents. Children who are deprived of attention due to divorce or the employment of their parents, thus, draw their anger to themselves, which is quite satisfactory for them. He goes to extremes just to be noticed. It is worth paying more attention and this whim will disappear.
3. Kleptomania. The help of a specialist is already needed here, as this is a serious mental illness. But this is a rare disease, 5% of adults suffer from it, although the Americans have proven that even of these 5%, half simulate the disease.
4. The location of classmates and friends. With this, the child buys the favor of his peers. There are cases of bullying in schools, and he needs the stolen money to pay off. When peers or older children extort money from a child, you need to help establish contact with them, if this is not possible, contact a school psychologist. There are situations when the only solution is to change the school.
5. Self-affirmation. Prove to all people and the whole world that he is brave and does not bother him with prohibitions. Parents, as a rule, cannot cope with this situation on their own; a psychologist is needed.
6. Protest or revenge. Control or, in his opinion, unfair treatment of a teenager, causes aggression and such behavior. In this situation, it is worth talking to the child, explaining to him this is not control, but his responsibilities, which all family members have.
5 ways to prevent theft
- Family money should not be in an accessible place for the child.
- A child should know from childhood that there are personal things for everyone in the family.
- A certain amount of pocket money must be agreed.
- If possible, you need to provide the child with everything necessary for his age.
- Lead by example not only physically but colloquially.
