Psychologists now work in almost all schools. It is only natural that students begin to address them with their questions. But most of the parents do not react to this quite adequately. If you do not have your own experience of referring to a psychologist, it will be useful for you to learn how to behave correctly if your child contacts a psychologist.
If the school has a full-time psychologist, then it is very possible that some students turn to him. This does not happen immediately, as the school psychologist begins to work. In order for the guys to come to him for a consultation, it is necessary that they know him well. When children often see a psychologist, communicate with him, trust him, then it is very likely that they can come with some kind of question. Often, at first, the guys drop in in groups to the psychologist's office, then they just run in to chat or relax during recess. And after that, one by one, they can come in with their problem.
Not all parents themselves have experience of going to a psychologist, so they do not know how to react in such a situation. There is nothing terrible in the very fact of your child's referral to a psychologist.
Themselves for consultation often come teenagers. Adolescence is a time to immerse yourself in yourself. The guys try to understand their inner world, learn what love and friendship are. It is sometimes easier to tell a stranger about such topics. So don't panic or pressure your child.
Instead, try to communicate calmly and in a friendly manner with your child. If your relationship is far from friendly, then it is unlikely that he will tell you everything right away. Have patience. Sincerity can be achieved only with a warm relationship. Also, keep in mind that teens are estranged from their parents. It is natural for them not to talk about something. This is the normal phase of separation from parents. A teenager has a personal life and his own intimate experiences.
You do not need to immediately run to a psychologist to find out what was discussed at the consultation. If your child himself did not consent to the disclosure, then the psychologist will only confirm to you the very fact of contacting him. This is akin to medical secrecy. Although this rule is not ironclad and not all psychologists follow it. But if you get information from a school psychologist, then keep in mind: your child may perceive this as a betrayal and penetration into his personal life. Therefore, it is better to get consent from your child to communicate with a psychologist and only then go to him for recommendations.
Trust your child, let him cope with the difficulties that have arisen. Let him know that you are always open to conversation. If your child needs your help or advice, he will turn to you.
