Simple but must-have rules for successfully raising your child. Observing them is not as easy as it seems at first. But this has a wonderful effect: it becomes much easier to communicate with the child. Not all parents are given to intuitively understand how to properly raise their child. Most people have to learn this skill.
Instructions
Step 1
Condemn the specific action of the child, not his personality as a whole. The child should understand what he did wrong, and not feel bad or humiliated.
Step 2
Your indignation should not concern the feelings of the child, whatever they may be. Express dissatisfaction with any action or action of the child. Anyone, including your child, has the right to experience any feelings and emotions. If they arose, then there were grounds for this. Even if you think otherwise, this is your opinion, which should not infringe on the child's right to any experience.
Step 3
If you systematically criticize and condemn a child, then he perceives it as: "my parents do not love me, do not accept me." In this case, the number of claims develops into quality, that is, it spoils your good relationship with your child.
Step 4
Any upbringing, and even more so criticism, should be based on your good, respectful relationship with your child. Before you start accusing your child of disrespecting you now, think to yourself: do you always respect the interests and feelings of your child? Start building good relationships with yourself; you are older, smarter and therefore you start to act.
Step 5
If you feel that you do not accept your child, do not feel absolute (that is, independent of any circumstances) love for him, then do not expect the effect of your educational measures. The child will only perceive your pedagogical influences when he feels your love. At the same time, your love should not depend on his behavior. For example, you may feel angry about what he did, but you still love him. True love does not love for anything. Under no circumstances should you blackmail with love: "if you misbehave, I will not love you." Over time, in response you will receive the same thing: "you do not give me candy, you are a bad mother, I do not love you."
