Many women face the problem of male infantility. The husband is unable to wash the dishes behind him, or put socks in the basket with dirty laundry, sits, not looking up, playing computer games, and is more jealous of the child than older children are jealous of their parents for the younger ones. It seems inexplicable, because an adult should not behave like this.
The causes of male infantilism are rooted in upbringing. By its nature, upbringing is conservative and in many ways continues to follow the traditions that were once necessary, but in the conditions of the modern world they are becoming vicious.
One of these traditions is to rejoice at the birth of a son-"heir" more than the birth of a daughter. With such a reverent attitude towards the boy, it is easy to break into upbringing like the "idol of the family", it just leads to the formation of an infantile man who will always demand increased attention to himself and will not want to share his wife even with a child.
Man and household chores
Another tradition is the division of household chores into “male” and “female” ones. This came from the peasant life, where it was justified: there was enough work for everyone, work was equally divided between a man and a woman. But a modern city dweller does not go to the forest for firewood and does not do many other things, which the peasant did back in the early 20th century - in the home life there are still things that are traditionally considered "female".
They remember about men's duties only when you need to fix a stool, hang a chandelier or move a wardrobe, but this happens from time to time, and you need to constantly cook and wash dishes, maintain order in the house. Traditionally, girls are taught to do such work from childhood, but not boys, so adult men do not know how to do household chores and do not want to, as usual I assign them to their wives. This is where male helplessness in everyday life comes from.
Computer games
Paradoxically, the male passion for computer games is also associated with a rather ancient tradition - to treat aggressive behavior differently in boys and girls.
In girls, aggressive behavior is certainly condemned and suppressed. In boys, it is less condemned, if not approved, as a trait of a "real man." A fight between girls is an emergency, a boy fight is the norm. Many parents may even reproach their son if he did not beat the abuser.
But a boy brought up in this spirit becomes a man, and in an adult, aggression in the modern world is not encouraged and even punishable by law, regardless of gender. A person has to constantly suppress it in himself - perhaps this is one of the reasons for the lower life expectancy in men. In such conditions, computer games, which are mostly related to military topics, have become a natural way out: they make it possible to show aggression in a socially approved way.
Such manifestations of male infantilism have to be treated philosophically - it is impossible to remake in a person what comes from childhood. A woman can only not repeat the mistakes of her mother-in-law and explain to her son in time that a real man is a serious, responsible person, and not one who uses his fists for any reason and does not touch a doormat.
