Only parents can transfer knowledge about behavior in society to a child. This knowledge will help develop in him independence and the ability to build relationships with others. It is necessary to correctly explain to the child that it is natural to want something more.
Why do you need to be able to ask?
Not knowing how to ask, a person very rarely turns to someone with a request and he has no hope for a positive result, and the word “no” is always perceived as a defeat. As a result, difficulties are overcome without support, there is no knowledge of building relationships in the family and with others. For a person who knows how to express their requests, refusal will not be an insult, he can also easily convince the interlocutor of all the necessity and benefit of his request. Such people achieve great results.
How to teach a child to ask correctly?
When there is a child in a family, loving parents are ready to give him all the best. But here there is a danger that he will be spoiled and capricious, since the demands are increasing every time, and having received a refusal, such a child throws tantrums.
To avoid such consequences, parents need to do the following:
- First, the child should correctly explain the reason for his refusal.
- Secondly, you need to give the child the opportunity to express the full need for his request. If he convincingly proves his innocence and defends his interests, then he will be able to conduct a dialogue with others, and the parents, in turn, must show the child that his opinion and desires do not go unnoticed. This will increase the child's self-esteem.
Boys' requests always sound directly, on a subconscious level. They are perplexed by rejection and anxiety arises. In such a situation, parents need to support their son, and also need to find out in detail the cause of the boy's upset, his feelings that arose during this. But there is no need to offer explicit help.
Girls, as a rule, do not directly express their requests, but use all sorts of hints. As a result, they may not understand, and this can greatly upset them. It is necessary to teach the girl to speak directly and concretely about her request. If the girl refuses, she should express sympathy and support her in every possible way.
