They say that it is impossible not to enter the same river twice and it is impossible to return the old love. Almost everyone agrees with this, but it is difficult to find a woman who, after parting, would secretly not want to start all over again. If you do not believe the folk wisdom and are sure that the game is worth the candle, then perhaps it makes sense to try to return your beloved man. But follow a few simple tips to avoid making a lot of mistakes at once.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, determine what drives you in your desire to get your man back. Do you want him back because you really miss him, or just out of a desire to take revenge and ruin his life?
Step 2
Realize if the man left you or went to another woman. Remember that you must forgive - yourself or him, because neither guilt nor resentment will return any relationship.
Step 3
Make sure you really need it and be prepared to fight for your feelings.
Step 4
Look for some bridges that can still connect you. You should not try to return a man who has gone far, far away and cannot communicate with you. Look for reasons for conversation, and if you have no reasons or common themes, then your enterprise will fail.
Step 5
Don't just remember the good things. Remember everything that happened - both joys and mistakes, yours and his. Analyze the situation, understand why everything went wrong. In a relationship, both are always to blame, so do not blame only yourself or only him. Make as many conclusions as possible - they will all become a tool for you to return a man.
Step 6
Don't repeat your own mistakes. Remember all of them and try to do the opposite this time. If you constantly threw tantrums for a man for any reason, then it was time to learn to be calm and balanced, and if you constantly cried from any of his words, then you need to learn to control yourself.
Step 7
If you are going to return a man, change yourself. Just change, not adapt to his every whim. If these relationships are truly dear to you, then you can step over your own habits and your own pride. The main thing is not to fall once again in the eyes of your beloved.
Step 8
Be patient and persistent. If you have realized all your mistakes and are ready to change, now everything is in your hands. At your first meeting, just make peace, do not take any too abrupt steps, this can only scare you away. Express calmly everything that hurts, and listen to everything that is said to you, even if you do not like to hear it all. Try to talk more on other topics, distract from sensitive issues. Talk about things that are interesting for both of you to talk about.
Step 9
Do not be intrusive in any way. Of course, if you are going to return your man, then you want to constantly be with him, but be patient. Not every man will be ready to return immediately. Do not give him hysterics, do not become dependent on him and in no case take revenge.
Step 10
Not every man will be ready to return. But often there are many little things that have tied you so tightly that there is still a chance to start all over again. Good luck and be happy no matter how things turn out.
