"How do you manage everything?" - the most popular question that my friends and acquaintances ask me. How to keep up with work, be creative and raise two children - read mom's secrets in this article.
Let me tell you my most important secret: I do not have time for "everything". I succeed in what is important and I just don’t worry that I didn’t. Here's how it's done in practice.
1. Prioritize
We will never have enough time to redo all the cases and carry out all the plans. Because we want more than we can. I just took it for granted: our dreams and aspirations, our responsibilities are greater than ourselves. There is only one thing left: to understand what is more important for you personally, and what will be done according to the residual principle.
My choices are: 1. Children 2. Work 3. Creativity 4. Household and household 5. Everything else
The first three items on the list are the most important. If I need and want to write a book or draw right now, borsch and floors will wait. Here I would like to advise all women to read the book "Dreaming is not harmful" by Barbara Sher, where she very clearly tells how to understand what is most important for you personally in life.
2. Get helpers
Your helpers are people, things, places and organization. The secret to the prosperity of many business moms, actresses, and presenters whom we admire - nanny, personal stylist, makeup artist and secretary. We, the simpler people, are helped by grandmothers, playrooms, kindergartens. Although, in fact, kindergarten is not necessary. But a grandmother or dad, or a friend who is ready to take over your child once a week and give you three hours of personal time is a little secret for mothers who dream of restoring mental strength.
As far as things go, any home appliances that cut your housework time will pay off instantly. And let no one grumble that it is expensive. Your time is priceless.
3. Don't try to be perfect for others
I am not a very good hostess and in general in many places I am far from ideal. But I realized that I have only one life, and I will not spend it on conforming to other people's ideas about the right and the normal. Of course, you can sleep 4 hours a day and rustle around the house all the time, keep your eyes on the timer and stay up until the last spoonful of shine in the house. But will it make me happy? Will my children be happy? Dying of fatigue and not having the strength for what I personally want is not for me.
4. Do what's good for you
I live for myself and those closest to me. But even the closest ones do not decide for me how to live and what to do. I do what is right and convenient for our family at the moment, and not for prying eyes. I simplify, optimize, and look for the gist, not the wrapper, to summarize my view of the world.
5. Keep your little secret
If everyone asks how you are doing everything, do not rush to deny and answer sadly that you do not have time to do anything. Answer with a Mona Lisa smile: "Okay, little by little." Because if you have a list of priorities, and they make you happy, then you already have time for everything you need to.
