Parenting problems are some of the most difficult issues - especially difficult for young parents. What should be done so that a child grows up as a worthy person and has some kind of value and moral "basis"? What methods of punishment can be used for bad behavior, and is whipping one of them?
Whipping a child: is it worth it?
One of the most ancient methods of punishment, flogging was also considered a traditional method of education for many Russian families. However, considering the realities of modern methods of education, is it worth spending energy on such a method?
Many psychologists believe that if a parent tries to use physical violence against a child as a punishment, then this speaks of the failure of the parent: you need to be able to explain everything to your child with words, acting on his mind verbally, without using a leather strap or - what is worse - a whip …
Nevertheless, and this statement is not quite easy to confirm: some children do not know how to process information at all, and it is not always easy for a 10-year-old child to explain why this is bad, and this is good, so it is easier to reinforce the child's behavior with punishment, as in dog training. …
If you listen to the opinions of the parents of obedient children, then most of them agree that the main principle of physical punishment is moderation - flogging only when "some kind of demon really possesses the child."
"Side effects" of whipping children
Many psychologists consider spanking not only an outdated method, but also one that can bring unhappiness into a child's life and destroy potential talents in him …
Why?
Today, the human psyche is in constant stress, and in children this stress manifests itself even more strongly, therefore, they can start your concern in a completely different way - they may not understand what you punished them for. Considering spanking a common act of violence against them, they will become withdrawn and hide anger at you.
It is very easy to shatter a child's psyche if you flog him hard from childhood. At the same time, he is unlikely to change his ideological guidelines if he sees in his environment (friends, family, classmates) people doing what he is forbidden to do. In the future, this can only spur in him the desire to taste the forbidden fruit.
Flogging small children only in extreme cases: education experts, as well as popular wisdom, advise starting acts of physical punishment at the stage of adolescence, when the child's brain is "naughty" most of all.
It is foolish to jump from one extreme to the other: flogging constantly - you can cause the consequences mentioned above, not flogging at all (especially boys) - a weak-willed person may grow up, so moderation would be the ideal option. Moreover, it is worth considering the psychotype of your child - someone may perceive the spanking as senseless violence and go through their whole life huddled in a "cocoon", having a terribly low self-esteem. Be careful, more often than not, you can just slap on the bottom (those who are younger) or give a slap in the face (those who are older), but first - the conversation.
