Male infidelity, unfortunately, is far from uncommon. Spouses break the oath of allegiance to their wives for various reasons: because of new love, out of boredom, out of curiosity, by coincidence, completely accidentally, deliberately, etc. But, whatever the reason for the betrayal, as a rule, male betrayal strongly affects family relationships and often leads to their final break. How to recognize this threat in time and understand: is the husband really inclined to cheating or is this problem a figment of your imagination and what to do then?
The problem of male polygamy is as old as the world. Yes, yes, and a thousand years ago, women were still tormented by suspicions about the loyalty of their husbands, and upon learning about adultery, they added poison to the food of their lovers. The tragic scenes of betrayal, as well as its consequences, are very colorfully reflected in many masterpieces of world artistic culture: in the works of famous writers, on the canvases of great artists, in architectural monuments, sung in poetry and songs.
In our time, of course, the methods of revenge have become much less bloody, and the very fact of betrayal has acquired a less tragic connotation. But, nevertheless, now almost every woman wants to be the one and only for her spouse, and therefore the topic of infidelity and its possible consequences is relevant to this day.
So what tips apply to modern realities? First of all, sanity! Before proceeding to action and thinking about plans for revenge, you need to know for sure: was there really treason? After all, you never know what, for example, your man could become a victim of unkind gossips who envy your family well-being. Or you are simply too jealous and suspicious and groundlessly accuse your other half of all mortal sins. Or maybe your spouse has good reasons for explaining his suddenly changed behavior, but they have nothing to do with his disloyalty to you?
How to understand: has your husband really cheated on you? If so, does he do it all the time, or did it happen once and by accident? Observe your man's behavior. Analyze what has changed in him: did he pay more attention to his appearance? Are his telephone conversations now out of your ears? Is your spouse staying longer at work and suggesting that you spend the next weekend or vacation separately? How has his mood changed, his attitude towards you: has he become more irritable or, conversely, more helpful, overly attentive? Does he have additional cash costs hidden from you? How has your sex life changed? Try to explain any of the observed changes not by the fact of infidelity, but by something else: problems at work, with health, the crisis of your relationship, etc. Do your explanations sound convincing to you?
Do not listen to stories about the betrayal of your friend's husband, this is unlikely to help you. Do not get lost in conjectures, do not be tormented by suspicions. If you've really stopped trusting your spouse, the best way to find out is to calmly talk to him about it. Doing this, of course, is only necessary if you are not afraid of the consequences of your man's frankness. After all, after his "confession" there may be no way back. Remember that the price of infidelity is often your marriage, whether you are ready to take such a risk is up to you.
If you love your husband and are ready to forgive him for all his sins, try to conduct a conversation with him in such a way that ultimatums and threats do not sound from your lips. On the contrary, remember the best moments of your life together, make it clear that your relationship is dear to you and you do not want to destroy it. Think about whether it is your fault in this situation? Try to objectively assess the causes of what happened.
No matter how terrible the betrayal is for you, the advice of a psychologist should be taken into consideration. If you cannot cope with this alone, you can contact a family psychologist, he will try to help you get out of this situation with minimal losses.
