In every family, sooner or later, problems arise, and this is normal. Success in family life will depend on whether the couple has developed a mechanism for resolving these problems.
Instructions
Step 1
The main task of ensuring a problem-free existence falls on the shoulders of the wife. Not because "Domostroy" orders so, it is just that women are by nature more flexible and easier to adapt to circumstances. If the wife, in the event of conflict situations, shows the same harshness as her husband, problems arise in the family, which over time grow like a snowball, if they are not solved.
Step 2
The root of all these problems lies practically in one thing - the husband does not feel like the head of the family. A woman needs to understand that a man goes against her not because he is a fool and a scoundrel, but because he is desperately fighting for the right to be the main one in the family. Give him this place. Why do you need it? The role of a woman is to be a gray cardinal, to be a neck that gradually controls its head. The woman's methods are in manipulation, not in direct struggle.
Step 3
In most problem families, a woman does not want to be a "second violin", and she achieves what she wants by forceful methods: she makes her husband do what she wants, nags him if he does not fulfill her wishes, makes him feel guilty. She, of course, achieves some results, but her husband feels humiliated at the same time, and does everything to take revenge on his wife. If you don't need a husband who does everything out of hand, let him be a man. Stop commanding and, perhaps, you will see that he may well cope with the main role in the family.
Step 4
Get in the habit of praising your husband for everything he does for you and your family. Praise him sincerely, not for show. A man needs female admiration like air. Then he will be happy himself and will make you happy. Also, by praising your husband, you will feel how your attitude towards him changes.
Step 5
If your family is dear to you, do not solve all problems in terms of "good for me", but think which option is most suitable for your family. Having developed such an approach, a woman will very easily remain silent when she wants to say something like that, it is easy to make a decision that is acceptable to everyone when it comes to spending money, and it is also easy to find a compromise in hundreds of previously unsolvable issues. If in the first place you will have not “I”, but “we”, the husband will definitely appreciate your efforts and will also become much more flexible in solving many issues.
