Unfortunately, family conflicts do not always end with verbal skirmishes. Sometimes the husband can go to assault. In no case should the situation be allowed to take its course. Understand the reasons for what is happening and develop a strategy for behavior.
Remember that it is not enough to part ways with a husband who allows himself to raise his hand. If you do not identify the reasons for this situation, it may repeat itself in the future. It is difficult to admit, but sometimes the woman is partially to blame for the beatings and fights in the family. Some of the fair sex provoke spouses to such behavior, others simply allow themselves to be treated in this way.
This in no way serves as an excuse for men, but it still affects the family situation.
It happens that a woman builds her relationship following the example of her parents. If her father beat her mother, unfortunately, the situation may repeat itself in the next generation. It is necessary to understand that this state of affairs cannot be called normal. Beating leads to humiliation of the individual and the emergence of an unhealthy atmosphere in the family.
Men who were often punished in childhood tend to be physically violent towards women. If the atmosphere of terror reigned in your spouse's family, he was constantly suppressed by his parents, this can cause assault in your home. You can correct the situation if your man is ready to accept the reasons for his own aggression and begin to fight against its manifestations. If he does not understand that he is acting incorrectly and does not want to change, it is not worth living with such a person.
If your husband is ready to embark on the path of correction, and you decide to give him this chance, help him. Your spouse must learn to express his emotions not with actions, but with words. Train him to speak, talk to him more often. Men are very closed emotionally. Sometimes this becomes the reason for the inability to talk about your feelings. By your own example, you can show the way to frankness, sincerity and honesty.
Perhaps, looking at you, the husband will also begin to open up.
Let your spouse channel the raging energy inside in some other direction. Instead of fighting with your wife, you can play sports, tinker with something, do the cleaning, work in the garden. Negative emotions are released, but no one is harmed by this.
You also have to behave correctly. If you decide to save your marriage, forget about the past, try not to talk about negative points. Support your spouse on the path to correction, praise and encourage him. Don't provoke your man. Do not insult him and refrain from too harsh criticism. Until you understand that he has learned to control himself, be especially calm, correct and tactful.
If, despite all the assurances, the situation in your family remains the same, it's time for you to make an important decision and leave the husband who beats you. Understand that the first time will be followed by the second and third. Relationships should bring joy, not grief and beatings. You will never have a normal life with a tyrant. Think about your future children. And if you already have a child, all the more it is worth leaving your spouse in order to protect the child's psyche from severe trauma. Find a support group. It can include your friends and family. Find an activity that can help you support yourself and build a new, free and happy life.
