In any, even the most loving and stable married couple, sooner or later a conflict may occur. But all this is fixable. It is possible to establish a newly opened, trusting relationship after a quarrel if you learn to behave correctly after a showdown, not to accumulate resentment within yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not seek to rebuild the relationship immediately after an argument. Give yourself and your partner an opportunity to calm down, understand your mistake and come to the realization of the need to build relationships. However, trying to hush up the conflict will be a wrong decision, since after a while the quarrel may flare up with renewed vigor.
Step 2
Look at everything that happened from the outside, try to put yourself in the place of your loved one. Thus, you can understand that you yourself were not right in everything. Learn to admit your mistakes.
Step 3
Sit down at the negotiating table and in a comfortable environment, without screaming or crying (this may lead to a second quarrel), tell about what you disagree with. But do not start the conversation with the words "I do not like..", rather use the phrases "I would like to …" or "I would be happy …"
Step 4
Learn not only to calmly listen to opinions with which you may disagree, but also to hear them. Do not be defensive in advance and do not seek to see the catch in everything. Better go towards each other.
Step 5
Find out the reason for your misunderstanding, the essence of the conflict. Then it will be easier for you to agree on the details, on further harmonious coexistence.
Step 6
Do not be ashamed to admit your mistakes, do not be afraid to take the first step forward. This will indicate not your weakness, but wisdom and maturity.
Step 7
In no case do not stoop to insults, because later it will be difficult for you to forget all the rudeness and offensive statements. Look ahead to the future. Make plans for your shared, happy family life.
Step 8
Think about how difficult it would be for you to get over the separation from your loved one if you did not manage to improve the relationship.
Step 9
Learn to forgive and trust. You should not keep the grievances in yourself, "let go" them.
Step 10
If you see that you are unable to negotiate and survive a conflict situation yourself, seek advice from a family psychologist.
