Living together often reconciles people with the shortcomings of their soul mates and teaches them to react in a certain way to certain actions. However, this takes time, and if you have not yet learned how to properly get out of the conflict and avoid repeating it, you need to draw conclusions from each quarrel. Constant tantrums and resentments do not add either love or passion to a relationship. Unfortunately, this is a path to destruction.
Accept the inevitable
You need to understand that it is impossible to do without quarrels and omissions at all. It is enough to quarrel with the boss or be late for a meeting as irritation begins to accumulate. This is how it is with most married couples, they are used to discharging from the accumulated negativity at home. To do this, it is enough to find fault with any little thing and a conflict immediately arises. At the beginning of a life together, such quarrels usually end in a passionate reconciliation. When the storm of feelings has subsided, you need to learn to put up in a different way.
Remember that you do not owe anything to the person who hits you, humiliates or threatens your safety. The same goes for people with alcohol addiction. Your upbringing, just like resentment, will fundamentally change nothing. It needs to be either treated or resigned.
Reconciliation plan
If you have an ordinary quarrel, do not follow the lead of your emotions, but act like a wise woman. First, decide if you really want reconciliation. Or the situation has become so painful that you will be better off alone. Answer yourself honestly to this question, because many couples continue to exist together only out of habit.
Try to avoid repeating the conflict in any way. Otherwise, it will look like a sore corn that you constantly rip off. If your husband is to blame, no longer find fault with him about it. If you were the instigator, analyze your mistakes and don't repeat them again. You need to be able to draw conclusions.
Do not try to go to a truce when your appearance is poor. Although you need to look after yourself constantly, women often forget about themselves. So shake yourself up for peace in your family. Of course, it is impossible to change the figure in a couple of days. But you can wear a dressing gown instead of a bathrobe and use makeup. A woman with curlers and a mask on her face evokes more pity than love.
Be the first to start the conversation. Come up with a conciliatory phrase in advance. Choose the right tone. If you do a favor, the fight will move into a new phase.
Don't discuss the oversights that led to the conflict. It is better to tell your husband about your feelings, that you are afraid of losing him and still love.
Show understanding. Say that in many ways you agree with him, it is just difficult to decide something on emotions. Admit it is right. But do not go too far, otherwise the man will take the position of a little boy offended by life.
It is better to reconcile on neutral territory, so try to lure your husband out of the house. Show him your love. And if he is not ready to make up, do not insist. Give him time to make a decision, but avoid an offended face or angry phrases.
