Relationships with a former partner can develop in different ways. Some couples really remain friends, others harbor resentment against each other. In some cases, after breaking up a relationship, you can resuscitate, if really necessary.
What causes separation?
Couples break up for different reasons. Some broke up because of an insoluble crisis in a relationship, in the lives of others, love simply died, and still others broke up because of the betrayal of one of them. In any case, there are no truly “former” partners in life. Resentment, anger, anger, sadness change the attitude towards a person, but it is not always possible to get rid of the feeling of ownership. In addition, long-term relationships force people to "grow" into each other, a special understanding arises between them, a kind of "household telepathy", so it is always difficult to really delete a once beloved person from life. This is why many people have thoughts of renewing their relationship with their ex.
When communicating with your ex-lover, do not think about the breakup. Do not stir up the past, do not sort things out. All this can lead to a quarrel, which will put an end to the return of the old relationship.
If a couple broke up by mutual desire without quarrels and scandals, you cannot build a relationship on this basis. Usually such people remain friends, they can sometimes communicate, and in moments of loneliness they find themselves in the same bed. But this does not fundamentally change anything. After all, such couples break up due to the lack of common goals and interests, they are no longer connected by anything. And if the gap really happened by mutual agreement, then nothing can bind them.
Is it worth rebuilding what was destroyed?
If you want to return the partner who dumped you or who you dumped, consider whether you really need it. After some time after the gap, only bright moments remain in the memory, the negative is simply erased, so that you can remember exclusively the dignity of your former lover, forgetting about the shortcomings that caused the separation.
Resume communication with your ex-soulmate, social networks provide an excellent platform for this. If you feel that contact is being established between you, invite him or her to meet, for a start it is better to invite your ex-lover to some small company, so the situation will not be too intimate.
Feel free to flirt with your ex, it will bring back memories of how your feelings began in him and your memory, which will only be beneficial if you really want him or her back.
The easiest way to establish contacts with your ex-spouse is if you have children together. They serve as the main "glue". Father-to-child visits are a great way to test the waters. Ordinary conversations, common themes and memories are what bring people together. Having a child just makes such conversations possible, since you don't have to specifically look for meetings, which can look awkward.
In fact, the best way (which works for brave people) is to call your ex-partner, invite him or her to meet and express his thoughts openly. This can be done if there is even the slightest hint of old feelings between you.
