Unfortunately, even in happy families, quarrels occur. It is very unpleasant and upsetting for both man and woman. But you really want peace, love and harmony. How can you avoid a showdown, or at least minimize family quarrels?
Instructions
Step 1
Do not harbor resentment and do not build up irritation within yourself. Talk to your loved one, discuss all the problems, down to everyday trifles. Be honest about what worries and offends you. Conduct the conversation calmly and sincerely, but when voicing your grievances, be prepared for reciprocal criticism. Oftentimes, these confidential conversations help spouses come to a compromise.
Step 2
Do not inflate the problem out of the blue. For example, a spouse hates large family meals. Offer him to visit relatives at least sometimes, or promise him some bonus for the next weekend: today we go to my relatives, and tomorrow - with friends to the club. Scattered socks and dirty dishes are also not a reason for swearing, because life is so short, just share your household chores.
Step 3
Do not control each other at every step; each of the spouses should have their own space. Respect the hobbies and interests of your loved one. Do not focus only on family life, find your hobby, develop and improve yourself, because smart and versatile people are always interesting and attractive. You should not spread all your ins and outs, small secrets and some kind of mystery are only welcome.
Step 4
Do not chop off the shoulder before yelling violent words or starting a fight, count to ten and breathe deeply. Try to distract yourself from thoughts of resentment, and when the passions in your soul subside a little, you will be able to soberly assess the situation.
Step 5
If they try to provoke you into a quarrel, do not give in. Make it a joke and try to calm your irritated soul mate. No matter how you quarrel and take offense - in no case insult each other, do not become personal and use obscene language. Offensive words are remembered for a long time and destroy family relationships. Take care of each other!
