There are families in which everything is not very smooth - constant quarrels, disagreements, misunderstandings and conflicts. All this introduces discord in relationships, which require a lot of time, effort and desire on the part of both spouses to restore.
Instructions
Step 1
Admit your guilt. In any conflict, at least two parties are involved, each of which is confident in its own rightness. But often, defending their own point of view, people offend each other with harsh words. It turns out that, in general, the person is right, but because of the inept solution of the issue, he makes mistakes. Therefore, before you restore a relationship, you need to sincerely understand and admit your mistakes.
Step 2
Change your conflict resolution methods. No one disputes the fact that it is much easier to raise your tone of voice or even go to shouting and express your opinion clearly than to sit down and discuss everything. But it is impossible to restore lost relationships without respectful discussion and exchange of thoughts. Try this advice in your family and you will see that it works.
Step 3
Be polite. Relationships built on tact, courtesy and courtesy are always strong and highly valued. Train yourself to say “thank you,” “please,” “be kind,” “if it's not difficult for you,” “I'm sorry,” and so on. Become aware of the positive actions of your spouse and sincerely praise them. Do not think that if you are not accustomed to this line of behavior from childhood, then in adulthood it is impossible to learn it.
Step 4
Communicate more often. Do this not occasionally, but regularly. For example, plan to spend half an hour chatting with each other after or during dinner. By the way, eating together very much unites the family and contributes to a warm atmosphere in it. When communicating, focus on your feelings and say what exactly and why you like it or not. Do not make claims, but replace them with requests.
Step 5
Do things together. This includes not only planning a vacation, but also purchasing food, cleaning the house, and preparing food. In general, everything that requires joint efforts. It may not be easy at first, but don't let circumstances get you down.
Step 6
Be patient. Lost relationships are not restored in a day or a week. But instead of focusing on what you haven't achieved, analyze together what you do and set further goals for yourself.
