Children follow the example of their parents and copy their behavior. Everyone knows this. And it is also known that one cannot live without quarrels at all. People tend to argue, conflict and quarrel. But it is important to quarrel correctly in the presence of children, end the quarrel at the right time and set an example for the child.
Current problem
You need to correctly understand what is the reason for the quarrel and solve this particular problem without remembering past grievances and disagreements
Building sentences
It is important to correctly tell your spouse about your feelings and resentments. Not to attack, but to speak out. Start sentences with "I feel …", "I want …", and not "You should …", "You should …".
Do not speak abusively
Never insult each other in the presence of children! Each time a child hears swearing from parents against each other, he will perceive it more and more normally and more habitually, and in the future he will also begin to communicate with you, losing respect.
Vote
You need to speak calmly, clearly and confidently, arguing your statements. The child will see that the quarrel is not ardent and harsh cries, but really the process of solving a problem.
Don't blame anyone
In the course of a conversation, you do not need to say that this or that, place or circumstance is to blame. In this case, the child will get used to blaming other people for all his problems. It is important to show that only a person himself is able to solve his problems.
Empty promises and threats
At the time of a quarrel, you should not say a lot of unnecessary and loud words that are forgotten after it. The child takes all these words literally, believes in it and is afraid of the consequences.
Explain correctly
After finding out all the points, we must not forget to tell the child that the quarrel is over and everything has been clarified.
Do not "hide" children from conflicts
A child sometimes understands the situation in the family better than an adult and sees when the parents' relationship is not the best. Don't lie to your child that everything is fine and that there are no problems. If he sees them himself, then there is no point in denying it.
Simple explanations
A child remains a child. He will not understand the whole palette of your feelings, worry and resentment. It is not necessary to "load" it with philosophy and long explanations. The child must understand the objective reason for the quarrel and how to get out of it. And also, it is important to tell the child that he is not to blame for the parents' quarrel and has nothing to do with it.
In fact, all these rules and tips are very difficult to use in a quarrel, since emotions are at the limit, and there is no time to think. But, having learned this, parents will take a big step towards the correct education and formation of the child's psyche.
