Getting married in order to get a divorce as soon as possible is not common. Basically, all the same, families are created with the hope of eternal love and cloudless happiness. However, not everyone has the wisdom and patience to understand their spouse, to sacrifice their own habits and interests for the good of the family. Then love and warmth leave - that for which a man and a woman decided to be together.
Instructions
Step 1
To rebuild your relationship with your wife, try to understand why it collapsed. Write a list of two columns: on the left - what you value your wife for, on the right - what you don't like about her. Think about how often you praised your wife for her positive traits, and how you expressed dissatisfaction with the negative ones. Imagine that in such expressions and in such a tone, censure is expressed to you, think about what your reaction would be.
Step 2
Make the same list of your own positive and negative qualities from your wife's point of view. Think about what exactly does not suit her in you - are you ready to give up these habits in the name of family happiness.
Step 3
Think about your most serious quarrels and try to assess their causes as objectively as possible. Perhaps, in your heat and anger, you and your wife did not really hear each other, or you did not have enough words and endurance to state mutual claims clearly and convincingly. Evaluate your wife's position from a new point of view and try to understand what exactly made her so angry - it may turn out that she had serious grounds for resentment.
Step 4
After you look at the situation again, it is worth calling your wife to talk. Assess her mood at the moment: if she is in a belligerent mood, then, most likely, all attempts at reconciliation will be met with hostility. It is better to soften it first with daily, unobtrusive manifestations of friendliness and participation - help in everyday life, classes with children. When communicating with children, do not forget to mention what a good mother they have - one way or another, the wife will definitely find out about it. You can speak louder just in case.
Step 5
If you feel that your wife is ready to discuss your relationship, invite her to have a serious conversation. In no case do not start it from a position of accusation - let your wife speak and listen to her carefully. If you understand that your wife is right in her reproaches, agree with her and promise to do everything to improve. If you think that she is unfair, try to state your point of view as convincingly as possible, without raising your voice or resorting to arguments like "you yourself …".
Step 6
After your wife spoke up and you did everything to let her know that you realized your own mistakes, calmly explain what exactly did not suit you in the current relationship. Listen to her arguments - they may not be without reason. But, if you are still convinced that you are right, express your opinion calmly and without insults - try to find a compromise.
