Only professional intelligence officers and philosophers, who have abandoned earthly concerns, can maintain an impenetrable expression on their faces in the most extreme situations. However, the skills of this art make life much easier for ordinary people.
Instructions
Step 1
Motivation. A person should be clearly aware of the reasons why he is trying to hide his inner world from others. Perhaps it's the shame of a perfectionist who doesn't want others to know about his weaknesses. Perhaps it is a desire to protect yourself from the attacks of others. Perhaps a person simply does not know how to demonstrate his emotions, the family was not taught to talk about his needs and feelings. After realizing the reasons, a person can turn to a psychotherapist with a request to help him articulate his feelings, needs, desires and dreams as best as possible.
Step 2
Choose a mask. In order to get along in a complex team, sometimes you have to wear a mask. For example, "strong woman" or "diplomat", "soul of the company" or "conflict-free clever girl." Only the person himself knows which of these images is most convenient for him, meets his temperament and inner needs: to comfort, to be useful or to feel the approval of others. It is important to remember that sometimes the mask will adhere to the skin. We are what we want to appear.
Step 3
Relax your mind. If a person needs to block his emotions in a specific situation (exam, interview, family scandal), then it is worth using proven techniques. These can be phrases that relax our mind in a special way. For example, "This boat is empty", "There is nothing worth revenge." Or "express meditation" - immersion in the scent of a flower, perfume, aromatic oil. Imagine the scent enveloping you like the world's most durable armor? Forward!
Step 4
Fixation on an outsider. By focusing on breathing, a person ceases to concentrate on negative emotions. Looking at the boss's earrings, the employee misses most of her barbs. The method of visualizing your emotions is considered quite useful. For example, you can imagine your anger as streams of fire that passes through you without scorching your heart. You can imagine yourself in a serene summer lake, into which the interlocutor is throwing stones. A soft splash, the circles diverge and again there is a serene silence.
Step 5
Deceive a vampire. If a person deliberately evokes negative emotions in you (provokes a quarrel, presses on a sore spot, humiliates people dear to you), then you need to understand that he is determined to "warm up by your fire", shout, release his negative emotions. We must ask ourselves the question: "Why am I feeding the vampire with my blood? Why do I need it." And start answering him nicely, politely and calmly. You can even imagine how you feed your "vampire" pickles or eclairs. And he rolls his eyes and cannot understand where the usual food is.
Step 6
Remember the paradox. We maintain our composure while we are in control. And we control the situation while we maintain our composure. It is important to feel yourself at this point of balance, and to put everyone who is trying to piss us off, gently but politely put in place.
