There are women who prefer to be friends with men more than other women. But there are few of them. There are many more women who make friends with both girlfriends and male friends.
Why there is a friendship between a woman and a man
One of the reasons for a woman's friendship with a man is that females prefer to have more males in order to slowly choose the best of them. This is an instinctive program, embedded in humanity for thousands of years of its existence. Many of the females, even after finally choosing the best, in their opinion, man, still leave a few spare options - just in case. For insurance against possible failures. In this case, the only way to hold back the fallbacks is to be on friendly terms with them.
Those who did not pass the selection for some reason are usually refused. But women usually try to refuse in the mildest possible way, unless the situation forces her to refuse in a rude manner. Men, by their very nature, often either do not perceive soft rejections or do not understand.
As a result, a situation arises in which a man continues to actively care for a woman, give her signs of attention, give gifts, provide assistance in everyday life, and it becomes profitable for a woman to accept all this without giving anything in return. In reality, the girl promised only friendship, and the guy, deceiving himself, hopes for something.
In more patriarchal communities, friendship between women and men is extremely rare, as women in such communities marry in earnest and for a long time. And after the wedding, the rules force them to end all relationships with strangers. And men are not allowed to look at other people's wives.
Benefits of Friendship Between Men and Women
It is beneficial for women to be friends with men for various reasons:
- Crying to a friend in a vest when, in addition to understanding, consolation and support, you need real participation in solving problems. And this, in most cases, can be obtained from a man.
- Receive economic benefits from a man, as most men are better equipped to make money. Go to a nightclub or restaurant at the expense of a friend, receive a gift from him, etc.
- To receive help from men in everyday life, because men are instinctively drawn to support a pretty woman in solving problems. It is simply stupid for women to refuse such help.
- Satisfy your social needs in communication with as many people as possible, satisfy your emotional needs from this communication.
There are no benefits for men in friendship with a woman. In any case, the volume of positive benefits will often be less than the volume of costs. But if desired, a man can also benefit:
- Do nothing casual. At least after a hearty dinner prepared by a friend and a glass or two of whiskey.
- If a woman is financially secure, receive some financial benefits, receive gifts.
- Make many useful acquaintances through her. Including getting to know her girlfriends, among whom you can find a more profitable option.
- The feeling of falling in love with an unattainable woman inspires many men to take care of themselves: build muscles, get an education, create a business with a good income, etc.
Can friendship turn into a more serious relationship
There is a chance that a friendship between a man and a woman will develop into a romantic one, but this happens extremely rarely. In most cases, for the reason that a woman gets used to the fact that the male next to her is just a friend and intimate relationships with him cause him a feeling of disgust.
In some cases, there is a friendly relationship between persons of different genders, in which there is also sex. But, as a rule, sex without obligation, and solely for the satisfaction of physiological needs. If the woman is interested in keeping the man as a friend, then sex can be a way to keep the male on a short, firm leash.
True friendship between women and men
A true friendly relationship between creatures of different sexes is possible only in cases when both of them or one of them is well over thirty.
The first option is when a man and a woman are absolutely uninteresting to each other in an intimate sense. When both of them have normal sexual relations outside of friendship (in marriage, for example) and are not looking for sexual adventure elsewhere, when both of them are asexual or homosexual (gay + lesbian) individuals.
The second option is when a man and a woman have common hobbies and joint benefits from pursuing their hobbies. For example, both are fond of skydiving: it is always cheaper to go to jumps together than alone, you can get various useful advice on equipment, and so on. A shared hobby can be a more solid foundation for friendship than a male's hopes for sex.
The third option is when there is a significant age difference between a man and a woman, or both of them are already quite old people. That is, one of them or both of them have no need for sex for a long time.
The fourth option is if the guy and the girl are familiar from childhood and the relationship from this age has developed purely friendly. In this case, both of them perceive each other as brother and sister and thoughts about intimacy do not even arise.
The fifth option is pen pals. In the 21st century, correspondence can also be conducted on a computer on the Internet. In such cases, the sex of the interlocutor does not matter.
The sixth option is a very strong relationship in which a friend and girlfriend do not even try to manipulate each other. In which a man and a woman respect and love each other. Provided that they both have brains, there is normal sex outside of friendship and there is no consumer attitude towards each other. In this case, they are capable of selfless mutual assistance, discussion of guys and girls with mutual advice, mutual consolation and support in negative situations.
