When getting married, every bride should be ready to receive advice from a wiser woman, from the mother of her beloved, from her mother-in-law. Sometimes such advice is very helpful in life, and sometimes it is useless. In any case, in order not to spoil the relationship, as well as to maintain good feelings among themselves, it is better to listen to advice or at least pretend. In order for the communication between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law to be a joy, it is better to follow the following tips.
First of all, in communicating with your mother-in-law, you need to decide how you will call this person. Agree that the word "mom" sounds somewhat insincere. And the appeal "you" has long become boring and sounds somehow impersonal.
The best option is to directly ask your dear mother-in-law about it. Believe me, thinking out on your own, finding out everything through your husband, playing around is not an option. Suggest your options, for example, Mom Sveta. As a rule, this option suits all parties. It happens that it is quite difficult for a person to adapt to calling a stranger a mother. If your mother-in-law insists, be sure to tell her about your difficulties. You should not keep everything to yourself, it is better to clarify the situation.
Try very, very, very hard to get a separate living space from your parents. Believe me, based on the experience of many daughters-in-law, it is much easier to become related and make friends with a mother-in-law from a distance. However, if you turned out to be a slave of fate and you still had to live with your parents, you need to adjust to the generally accepted way of life, and not break in your favor. Of course, there are situations when you need to insist on your own. But at the same time, keep the line and never go into conflict. Best of all, ask your husband to talk to your mother. This is the wisest decision.
In no case should you discuss his relatives in the presence of the husband. This does not add dignity to you. And it is unpleasant for a husband to hear this from his wife. This jeopardizes your relationship as husbands love their mothers very much. If you really want to discuss "behind your back", it is worth attracting a friend or a stranger for this role.
No rivalry! In any case, some will be the loser and some will gain. Either way, one of you will be humiliated. Is it necessary to give impetus to negative attitudes?
