Of course, future parents cherish in their hearts a dream related to the gender of their unborn child: the father imagines how he will play football and hockey with his son, and the mother imagines how to go shopping with her daughter to choose elegant dresses. Or maybe vice versa: the father wants him to have a beautiful and intelligent daughter, an excellent pupil, and the mother wants her to have a strong and brave son, the protector and breadwinner of the family. But now the child is born, and you just have to come to terms with his gender. Give up your dreams and do not cripple your child by imposing on him behavior that is not typical of his gender.
A boy was born? That's wonderful! A girl was born? Wonderful! But remember that even if you have already raised one child, you will not be able to raise a baby of the opposite sex using the same methods. The difference in the physiology and psychology of boys and girls is huge, and therefore they should be brought up in different ways.
By nature, girls are more resilient, they adapt more easily to changes in the environment, and they grow up faster. Boys, on the other hand, are inclined to constantly search for suitable conditions, to progress. These behavioral features of boys and girls are clearly visible in the example of their games: girls mainly rely on their hearing, and not on sight, they are able to play in a confined space, and can look at objects for a long time. For games, girls have enough of their corner in the room. Boys, on the other hand, prefer to explore large areas and focus on distant vision. They enjoy playing active games, running and jumping, climbing fences, etc.
A woman should have wisdom, compassion, pity, gentleness, high endurance and spiritual strength. A man, on the other hand, must be strong physically, courageous, self-confident, able to stand up for himself and protect loved ones. Raise these qualities in your children, buy dolls for the girl and play with her as mothers and daughters, and give the boy cars, models of ships and planes. Teach your child to be independent from childhood: let him help you, let him learn to do the necessary housework and help adults, even if his help is purely symbolic. The child should see what his parents are doing and help as much as possible: bring a vase, put flowers, wipe the table, wash a cup, hammer a small nail into the wall, bring tools, etc. Let the child feel needed by you, let him do the simple things first, then more and more difficult tasks and learns to do housework.
The difference in education between boys and girls is also great. Girls, as a rule, are more efficient and attentive, more accurate and try to do the job well. Boys, on the other hand, delve into the material more slowly, they need to be explained, starting with something very simple and gradually increasing the load. Boys are not interested in repetition of material, constant performance of the same actions (adherence to the algorithm when solving a problem), they need to look for a new, non-standard, original solution. Often in schools, this masculine trait is suppressed by teachers and something like the following happens: the child is forced to solve similar problems with the same method, he first begins to get bored, and then gets angry, withdrawn, angry with the teacher, does not want to perceive new material. Boys need to be gently nudged, helping them to discover their own, non-standard solution, but at the same time being taught to carefully perform and formalize the work. What will the solution cost if, due to inattentive mistakes, it gives a fundamentally wrong answer? Girls, on the other hand, need to be taught to wash in a non-standard, original way, to come up with a solution themselves, not relying on samples.
Emotionally, boys and girls are also very different. Many girls are able to maintain emotions for a very long time, while boys tend to experience deep and strong feelings, but for a short time. In addition, girls often cannot keep feelings in themselves, while boys try to hide emotions. As a result, without considering these features, parents often make mistakes. Harsh, unpleasant words spoken by a father to his daughter can leave a deep imprint on her soul. A girl can worry for a very long time, while her father has long forgotten about her insult. A boy who is scolded by his mother may be very upset, but he tries not to show it. Thinking that the child is indifferent to her words, the mother gets even more angry. Remember that children are easily hurt. Be discreet and calm.
