With the advent and maturation of a child, parents face many problems. Among them is how to respond to a child's violation of the rules established in the family. How should you respond to a child's misbehavior and how to ensure that in the future the child will behave the way his parents want?
Most often, in such situations, parents are guided by their own experience, recalling the methods of raising their parents, tested on themselves. But, unfortunately, there are no universal methods of education. There is no single recipe for correcting the behavior of any child.
Of course, the child's misbehavior must be met with an adequate response from the parents. Otherwise, the child will get used to the feeling of impunity and permissiveness, and in the future, problems with the child's behavior in society will only grow, like a snowball.
Modern educators and psychologists are in complete agreement that physical punishment is the most useless and even harmful. Useless - because physical sensations are quickly forgotten, all the more unpleasant. Harmful - because with frequent use, they turn against the goals that the parent pursues by punishing. Such a child easily withdraws into himself, a feeling of anger towards the whole world appears.
The hardest punishment for a child is parental silence. Or it can be called a kind of boycott. The child will much more easily endure swearing, screaming and slapping on a soft spot than silence. The silence of an adult leaves the child alone with himself, at this moment he experiences a sea of emotions, but there is nowhere to throw them out, because he does not receive a response.
In this case, the parent needs to remain completely calm. But such a punishment must not be prolonged. A few minutes is often enough for a child to realize the full severity of his situation. After that, the parent must sit down with the child and calmly talk, explain why he was so punished, what feelings mom or dad feels when the child misbehaves and forces him to punish him. It is important to emphasize that it is unpleasant for parents to punish, and that the child itself is good and most beloved for them, but they simply cannot ignore a specific act. After such a conversation, a reconciliation of the parties must necessarily follow. And it is never necessary to remind the child of his past sins. He had already been punished and forgiven for them.
