Among the daughters-in-law there are many different legends and myths about such an important character in family life as the husband's mother. And, if for a man the mother-in-law is the main stronghold of evil, then for a woman this role is played by the mother-in-law. And in order to establish good relations between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law, it is necessary to decide how a young girl should call her beloved's mother.
Instructions
Step 1
How you will call your mother-in-law largely depends on what traditions the husband's family follows. Find out exactly how a girl should call her mother-in-law in a personal conversation with her husband's mother. Such a conversation can take place right on the wedding day. But in wedding chores it will be very difficult to "catch" the groom's mother for a sincere conversation with the daughter-in-law, so this issue must be resolved either before or after the wedding.
Step 2
Some mothers-in-law choose the option of addressing them by first name and patronymic. Do not think that this is a manifestation of mistrust. "Mom" is a word that for each person can have its own meaning and its own emotional tone. Therefore, not every mother-in-law is ready to accept a “mother” from her son's wife in her direction, just as not all daughters-in-law can turn to her husband’s mother in this way. That is why the method of addressing by name and patronymic is very convenient in this case.
Step 3
Some young mothers-in-law may ask their daughters-in-law to call them by name only. This choice is understandable: every woman in her soul always feels like a young eighteen-year-old girl, so it is difficult for them to come to terms with the fact that they already occupy such a responsible and honorable position called "mother-in-law". Such treatment is a great opportunity to get closer to your husband's mom. Calling by name promotes pleasant close communication and provides a good opportunity for close friendships in the future.
Step 4
Another and the most touching, kindred and sincere appeal of the daughter-in-law to her husband's mother is the word “mother”. It happens that at a wedding or bridal show, when the groom's parents officially accept the choice of their son, the mother-in-law herself takes the initiative and asks the daughter-in-law to call her mother. Such a request is an important point in the relationship between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. She promotes possible future friendly family relationships. However, sometimes mothers-in-law are timid and embarrassed to suggest such things themselves. Here, the daughter-in-law herself must take the initiative, calling her mother-in-law “mother,” and there is no need to refer to the fact that only his own mother can be called that way. Such an appeal will help in the development of a warm relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law.
Step 5
Calling a mother-in-law “mom” for the first time is difficult, but it is necessary to turn yourself around and do it. Whether it's gratitude for a warm welcome and a delicious dinner, or just an expression of your love for her. The main thing is to remember that such treatment in a family implies a tender and warm relationship.
