There has long been a stereotype in society that women love more out of pity. Is it really so and is it worth "so" to love a man?
It is good when a woman supports her man and gives him confidence in herself, but, on the other hand, starting to lisp with him, she suppresses his inner masculinity, provokes in him the behavior of a small child.
Psychologists believe that all men can be roughly divided into two categorical types:
- "iron knights" - strong-willed men who never allow anyone to show pity to themselves;
- "little boys" - such men are always looking for a reason to complain to someone.
All women have a maternal instinct, so it is not surprising that most choose “weak” men who need support, care and an open expression of love. But this does not mean at all that strong men do not need all this. They are just more constrained in their emotions, do not show their true desires even to themselves.
Pity is a kind of expression of psychological help to a man. And the strong usually help the weak. Hence the reluctance of men to be pitied. So a woman shows her strength, moral superiority over a man, and this, in turn, is considered impermissible for him. Therefore, you need to regret competently, otherwise your actions will cause not gratitude, but anger and irritation. A "real" man will willingly accept hidden manifestations of pity - help him with deeds, be attentive in the little things - pour tea, cover with a blanket in a dream, or hug him for no reason. But in any case, do not become obsessive - no man will tolerate this. Endless calls, round-the-clock idle chatter and kissing every minute will piss anyone off.
You, like no one else, know the needs of your man - maybe he likes to have his brush on the left or to have his morning coffee a little cold? So make it so that the man is pleased, and do not ask for gratitude, because men in a dejected state sometimes do not notice anyone around them. Be patient and just be there. And if you notice that a man really needs pity, then show it with deeds, not words.
If you have chosen a weak man as your partner, then help him become strong. Do not lisp with him, and do not praise for no reason. Of course, you can't call him a loser either; it is important to objectively evaluate his actions and behavior. Do not look for excuses for his failures, but rather help fix the situation. You should not blindly forgive everything and justify any, even the most ugly actions.
It is important to remain a woman next to your man and not turn into a "mommy" for him. You should be a mom for your children, but not for your husband.
