You can list a lot of reasons that stop men from getting married. The article examines the most common, typical mistakes that women make when they unsuccessfully seek to legitimize their relationship with their beloved man.
1. Lack of a positive "picture of the future"
There are a lot of jokes about marriage, in which for a man it is presented as something unnecessary and terrible. Any man sees in front of him a lot of negative examples of family life. It would be strange if, seeing for himself such a “picture of the future,” he strove to be in its center. Even being in the mood for marriage, without considering it in the most unpleasant aspects, a man is not ready to start a family with any of the women. And only having met a woman with whom he will see his future the way he wants, he will be ready to make her a part of his life. Some women intuitively manage to give a man a similar positive vision of living together. Others, on the contrary, manage to make a man believe that life after a wedding with her will be completely different.
A woman perfectly understands, coming to the idea that she wants to become a wife to this or that man, what their life together will be like. But he does not understand how the man sees their family life, what it seems to him with her. And then an involuntary question arises: what did the woman do in order for the man to come to the conclusion: “Here she is the very woman with whom my life will be the way I want her to be”?
2) low relationship value
Almost every woman can feed lunch, ensure comfort and order in the house, and have sex. Such aspects do not make you that valuable woman, with whom a man would not want to part. The real value is those relationships in which a man is accepted as he is, give him the impetus to become even better. Although men are afraid of such a concept as "spiritual closeness", but it is she who makes the relationship with a particular woman truly unique and valuable. It is enough to give an example of the love of Peter I and his wife Catherine I. Being a simple serf, she was able to become for Peter the very close woman whom he not only married, but also made her an empress, leaving her his throne. And this despite the fact that Peter had a lot of noble, beautiful, educated mistresses.
A woman perfectly understands for herself the value of a relationship with this or that man. But she does not think about what is valuable for a man herself. And again an involuntary question arises: what did she do to make the man come to the conclusion: “Here she is - the very woman I have always been looking for”?
3 civil marriage or blasé relationships
I happened to observe a lot of examples of how a woman surrounds her chosen one with care, takes care of him, always does everything for him what he wants. Her man always has a delicious dinner, great sex, understanding and support, care and attention. Especially if the couple lives in a civil marriage. A man has everything he wants. But, nevertheless, he does not strive for a wedding with a woman. Of course, the phrase “he already has everything” is quite true here. Once again, I will emphasize that all this can be provided by practically any woman without creating a family. Often, only the question of children forces a man to enter into a marriage. Perhaps, if not for the pregnancy, he would never have taken a step towards creating a family. And if a woman understands for herself what marriage will give her, then she does not think about why suddenly a man should want the same thing. What will marriage give him? That he will receive after the wedding that necessary and valuable that he cannot have without her. Therefore, another involuntary question is brewing: what did she do so that the man came to the conclusion: "In marriage with her, I will receive much more than I can have outside of him?"
4. Requiring a man to get married
The desire of women to formalize their relationship with a man is understandable. Of course, there are enough men among men who have a much simpler and calmer attitude to marriage. However, most men still perceive marriage as a crucial step. A step that you do not want to make a mistake. A step that he is not just ready to take, but wants to take.
Not seeing in their chosen one either the readiness or desire to have a wedding, some women begin to try to exert all kinds of pressure on the man of varying strength and intensity. Obviously, if a man does not make an offer, then he has not yet come to the key conclusions that are indicated above. Feeling pressure, seeing manipulation by a woman, while experiencing a wide variety of negative emotions, what conclusions, in the woman's opinion, should a man come to in the end? Isn't it diametrically opposed? Maybe, instead of demanding a wedding, a woman should ask herself a question that suggests itself: "What have I done to make this man want to become my husband?"
