The problem of “dumbness” in communicating with the opposite sex is known to many men (especially young men) firsthand. There are some simple tips to help you keep your mouth shut and make a good impression.
First, take it easy. After all, a simple conversation with a girl is not an interview for a top position in an enterprise leading in the list of natural monopolies; and not an entrance exam to a prestigious university. By reducing the importance of the present moment, you can relax and behave naturally, which, in general, is already half the battle.
Second, treat the situation with humor. If you make any mistake, then consider it as an excuse to make fun of yourself. Healthy humor is a powerful weapon when communicating not only with the opposite sex, but also in absolutely any situation, except, of course, funerals and commemorations. You can also prepare a couple of jokes in reserve and screw them in at a convenient moment.
Thirdly, it would be nice to make some inquiries about the object of your interest on the eve of the meeting. With the proliferation of social networks, this is not particularly difficult - just take a look at her page. This will allow you to ask questions that will be of interest not only to you, but also to your counterpart. Of course, you shouldn't pretend that you understand some specific issues as well as she does - this may lead to suspicion. In some cases, it is preferable, with the air of a beginner, to ask a girl about some of her unusual hobbies. This way, you can control the flow of the conversation and feel more confident.
Fourth, ask more questions than you talk about yourself. Dale Carnegie also noticed that people are interested in those who are also interested in them. Of course, you should not actively ask about health, financial situation and other things that may embarrass your interlocutor.
Fifth, to be an interesting conversationalist, you need to have a significant outlook. If you are interested in sports, politics, music, macrame weaving techniques, or anything else that is no less exciting, then this will greatly increase your chances of getting the young lady interested.
Last but not least, do not try to appear as someone you really are not. It will be very difficult for you to remember what you lied about in this or that case. In addition, in someone else's role, you will feel insecure. Remember, sincerity and naturalness attract people much more than someone else's mask on your face.
