Dating sites are a modern and convenient way to find friends and girlfriends without leaving your home. Many on such sites are looking for a companion or life partner, trying to arrange a personal life, to choose the best of the best.
In order to attract the attention of the opposite sex, experts advise to pay attention to the main points and rules of behavior on dating sites.
1. Post reliable information
This is the basic rule, following which you can make a serious acquaintance on the site and not disappoint your interlocutor. Do not underestimate your age and weight, do not add height to yourself. Don't brag about a good education, a good job, or a good income that doesn't really exist. Do not hide children from a previous marriage, if any.
For many men and women, centimeters, kilograms and years can be important parameters. And when, during a personal meeting, the deception is revealed, the relationship that has just begun will end forever.
In addition, by posting reliable information about yourself, you get the right to equally reliable data about your partner. This primarily applies to photographs that must be real, not collective and not older than 1 year, provided that during this year you have not changed your hairstyle, have not grown fat or lost weight.
And besides, it is impossible to start a serious relationship with a deception, which sooner or later will be revealed.
2. Write first
In life, it is believed that a man should be the first to write to a woman, be the first to call, offer meetings, etc. But dating sites have different rules. Ladies not only can, but also need to be the first to start communication, do not hesitate to call or meet in a real setting.
For those who are embarrassed to start communicating first, they came up with an opportunity to put "likes" under photos, statuses and posts, the ability to send a smiley or a virtual gift to a person they like.
You can also hint about your desire to call or meet a new acquaintance in person with a suitable picture or emoticon.
3. Read the questionnaire carefully
If the purpose of dating is to establish a serious relationship, carefully read the profile of the person you like. Information about his interests and hobbies will help to find topics for communication, maintain a conversation. From the content of the questionnaire, you can find out what annoys the future interlocutor and what he likes.
A lot of information can be gleaned from the photographs of a potential partner. Small and low-quality photographs indicate that he was irresponsible in the dating process and is not very interested in finding a life partner. The same can be said for a person who appears to be sloppy or inappropriately dressed in their photographs.
Men should remember that before taking a photo, ladies put on makeup and do their hair. Without makeup and hairstyle, they can look very different. The complete absence of photographs indicates either that the person is completely unattractive, or is married (married).
Even the presence of spelling, punctuation and stylistic errors in the questionnaire of a potential partner can tell about the level of his intellectual development.
4. Pay attention to correspondence
Never answer questions with monosyllabic answers: "Yes", "No", "How are you" and "I don't know." Such phrases create artificial interference in communication. Always provide detailed answers. Make the same demands on your interlocutors. If he answers in monosyllables and does not seek to maintain correspondence, he will quickly become bored.
Feel free to be a little awkward in communication, give out discordant phrases. On the other hand, this is what shows the interlocutor that you are a real person and communicate in your own words, and in a personal meeting you will communicate in much the same way as on the website.
Errors in messages may indicate that the interlocutor either does not pay attention to such "trifles", or is a schoolboy who created a fictitious questionnaire and is playing everyone in a row.
5. Do not pull the rubber, but take your time
Experts advise: if an acquaintance by correspondence has taken place and is developing successfully, you need to call in a maximum of 3 days. In 15 minutes of communication on the phone, you can find out more about a person than in six months of chatting. During this time, you can evaluate the timbre of the voice and understand whether you like it or not, as well as form an opinion about the manner of communication of the interlocutor. Not many people like it when the future chosen one is used to being rude, rude, swearing, or he has serious speech defects.
For such calls, it is better to get yourself an additional phone or smartphone with the function of blocking calls and SMS from unwanted subscribers.
On dating sites, there are an abundance of individuals from among prisoners, married and convinced bachelors who want to brighten up their leisure time by correspondence. You can calculate these using the first date. People in this category are unlikely to be happy to go out together. Especially in a crowded place and in the company of your friend (sister).
6. Don't forget about scammers
Never send money or valuable gifts to online acquaintances. Even if a person is in trouble, he must have relatives and friends to help. If there are no relatives and friends, this is a reason to think: if no one needs him, then maybe it's not just that?
If you are trying to find a husband or wife abroad, do not look for candidates on Russian-language or English-language sites. More than 90% of them are filled with fraudulent profiles. Better to learn French or Italian and start a questionnaire in French or Italian. The chance to run into a scammer is reduced several times.
7. Don't fall in love over the internet
Always remember that on a dating site you can only see a photo of the interlocutor, which may not always be true. Nothing prevents an opponent from posting someone else's photo or retouching it using Photoshop. On the first date, you can see a completely different person, and not the one who is in the photo.
It should also be remembered that the words and promises made by an opponent on the Internet are worthless. And they should be believed with great care. Only if the acquaintance strictly fulfills his promises, you can begin to trust him.
Don't make real plans for someone until you start seeing them regularly. Also, don't let your partner do this.
8. Know how to say no and ignore the person
On the Internet, no one owes anything to anyone. If you are not satisfied with communicating with someone, ignore it or ban it. Do not answer all potential interlocutors in a row, choose those who are interesting to you.
There is a category of people on the Internet who always and everywhere seek to bring negativity: they write aggressive messages, vulgarity, leave offensive comments. On many sites, they can be blocked, and comments can be deleted.
Such people are a necessary evil. Therefore, when creating a profile on a dating site, be mentally prepared to meet them.
