While in Russia the practice of adopting children from boarding schools is small, but in the West it is already quite widespread. Increasingly, Russian parents express a desire to take someone else's child into the care of them.
When parents come to the guardianship and guardianship authorities with the desire to become foster parents, then specialists study the family, prepare them for meeting a new child. The most popular are children under three years old, and then 6-7 years old. It is better if the child is just taken from the family. Therefore, mainly in boarding schools there are adolescent children who have been cut off from their families for quite a long time. As a rule, these children are adopted less often. It is about them that it is worth talking in more detail.
Children from the orphanage are brought up a little differently: they don’t wash, don’t clean, they cannot cook food, don’t know prices, don’t go shopping. They don't even know their way around the city, since they don't go on excursions, they practically don't go anywhere.
Such children are served by special staff, so children in the boarding school are practically helpless in the real world. What should foster parents know about these children?
There is no need to be afraid to take even adult children from the boarding school. Such children just dream of starting a family. If children under 10 can still be capricious, older children are aware of their unwillingness to return to the boarding school, so they try to be obedient.
Children from the boarding school do not have the ability to express their love, as there are not enough nannies and educators for everyone. Therefore, the older the child, the more difficult it is for him to approach, just hug, say an affectionate word. At first, such children will find it very difficult to perceive words, it will seem to them that no one needs it. However, the adolescents from the boarding school really need the love of their parents, but they absolutely do not know how to accept such love. A child from a shelter needs to be very gradually and carefully accustomed to such words as mom and dad, to the manifestation of affection. This can take a month or more.
The smaller the child, the easier and faster he enters into a new family, it is more difficult for adolescents in this regard. Orphans very often become adults much faster than children who grew up in a family. They managed to sip grief from the very beginning, and therefore they understand that from the very youth they need to get on their feet.
Having been in a new family, teenagers are already willing to help their parents, but very often they begin to protest, even run away from home. This is because it seems to them that no one loves them. Teenagers are used to the fact that no one usually really cared about them. You need to show maximum patience and attention to such children, learn to understand and love them. Gradually, after some time, the child will surely reciprocate you, turning into a truly dear person.
