Adolescence is the most difficult period of development, because it is then that the formation of a person's personality occurs. There are many problems associated with it, including the rampant lies of the child.
Being a parent of a teenager is difficult and not always pleasant. At this age, children grow up dramatically and try to become as adult as possible in the shortest possible time. This entails unpleasant consequences - for example, your child tries alcohol for the first time, cigarettes, stays late and often lies. The last moment is the hardest thing to deal with; lying is often a method of self-defense for a child. He hides the real facts and tells lies in order to protect himself from the parent. And he is not always afraid of physical punishment, but also of raising his voice, reproaches. Pay attention to your upbringing method - authoritarianism will not bear fruit. Loosen your grip, it will still not be possible to control all the actions of the child. Teenagers lie also because of what they think did not work out. It seems to them that everyone around them lives better and happier. The first parting with a lover, the refusal of parents to buy some thing, a ban on travel with friends - all this entails mountains of lies. Children lie so as not to look “stupid” in front of their peers, to embellish the realities of life and to seem a little “cooler”, and so on. In this case, little depends on you. It will take a couple of years for the child to realize that his life is not a race trip with friends, and that all the pleasures and joys are yet to come. Unwillingness to solve problems also leads to lies. It only means that the teenager is afraid and not ready to become an adult with all the attendant circumstances. Having received a "deuce", he will not rush to inform his parents and go to the teacher to correct it. He will hide the truth from you, and will avoid the teacher. Relying on "chance", adolescents continue to live and pretend that nothing bad is happening. And this entails all new lies, because the problems will not be solved by themselves. Try to teach the child to be responsible, instill it over time, do not put pressure on the teenager. Whatever is causing your adolescent child to lie, do not take it as a major developmental challenge. Explain gently that lying doesn't always solve problems, but often creates them. It is advisable to do this by your own example: do not lie at least in front of him and share examples of the unsuccessful outcome of the lies of friends.
