At the age of five, babies and toddlers are able to tell the most incredible stories. Adults have to make a lot of effort to distinguish between fantasy and deliberate lies, as well as to choose a vector of behavior.
Fantasy is an indicator of emotional and intellectual growth
At the age of five, the ability to fantasize indicates that a child can have a territory separate from adults, protect himself from the roughness of the world around him. For parents at this moment, it is important to teach the kid to distinguish real life from the fantasy world.
Five-year-olds often tell the most incredible stories about terrorists on the roof of a kindergarten, a detective dad, or treasures in the basement of a house. Thus, children attract attention to themselves, trying to arouse the admiration of their peers. If you are faced with such a situation, you should not conclude that your baby is a little liar.
React to the lies of the little dreamer calmly, let him know that you are aware of his fables. Do not ask the question “Why are you lying?”, Children at this age are not able to realize their motives. Be sincere with understanding of the child's desire to embellish reality, but bring to his consciousness that such inventions are only good for play. Motivate that the children, upon learning about his inventions, will get angry and will never believe him again. Agree to accept the baby's stories only as fiction, but in no case as the truth.
I didn't take this
Parents quite often have to find extraneous things from their friends in their children, even worse if these things appear after visiting the store. At the age of 4–6 years, the child is just beginning to form a "voice of conscience", the child clearly understands that he did a bad thing, but only the nascent conscience is easily drowned out by the temptation to possess a thing. Ignoring such situations is a time bomb planted under a shaky moral foundation. Explain again that taking without asking or paying is not good. The best solution would be to pay for the item together or return it to the seller with the clarification that it was taken illegally. Warn the seller in advance of your intention so that she does not disrupt the educational process with remarks or harsh statements.
Was there an insult?
The kid, returning from kindergarten, constantly tells how children offend him. But sometimes, when clarifying, it turns out that such conflicts did not even arise in the team. In this situation, pay attention to how you react if you take the side of your child (which happens in most cases): you pity, justify him and turn other children into a source of evil. If a child tells more and more terrible stories of the atrocities of other kids, then he simply does not have enough affection and attention. He can get them only by becoming the injured party.
It is also important what questions you ask him on the way from kindergarten, if the list contains the phrase: "Are they not offending you?", The child subconsciously forms the idea that he should be offended, and he begins to remember all the most insignificant conflicts and quarrels, fanning them to the size of a catastrophe. The child should not live with the thought that he can be offended. Try to praise the child even for small accomplishments: a carrot molded from plasticine, a recited rhyme or a line of sticks in a notebook.
Three rules for dealing with lies:
- Make it clear to the kid that the untrue told by him is the biggest evil; even more than the offense itself.
- Do not swear if the child himself confessed to the crime.
- Praise for telling the truth.
