According to experienced psychologists, fear and love are mutually exclusive concepts. Therefore, if you are afraid of your husband, there is a serious problem in your relationship that needs to be addressed at all costs.
Necessary
- - hobby;
- - Job;
- - consultation of a psychologist;
- - a conversation with her husband.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to objectively analyze the situation, answer your questions: at what point did you begin to feel fear in relation to your husband? How strong is this fear and how often do you feel it? Are you always afraid of your spouse or only when you feel guilty towards him? Do you love your husband? Does your spouse love you? Having considered the problem comprehensively, it will be easier for you to outline ways to solve it.
Step 2
Get rid of feelings of guilt towards your husband, increase self-esteem. To do this, you must have personal interests and hobbies, you do not need to completely dissolve in your spouse. Find an interesting hobby that will bring you pleasure, new friends with whom it will be pleasant to communicate.
Step 3
If your husband in any way provokes your fear of him: yells at you, threatens you, assaults you, etc., do not tolerate such an attitude towards yourself. Talk to him frankly about what you dislike about his attitude towards you. Perhaps this is excessive control, jealousy, picky, etc., clearly justify your request for the spouse to change his behavior. If your husband doesn't trust you, try to find out why this is happening.
Step 4
Keep in mind that a man's aggressive behavior is often a sign of his self-doubt, tormenting his inner complexes and fears. Therefore, the best solution in this situation is just a calm conversation with your husband about all your problems.
Step 5
Keep in mind that a tyrant spouse is not the best option for a normal family life; your divorce from him may be a completely justified way out of this situation. If your husband abuses his power over you, asserts himself at the expense of you, part with him without any regrets. Don't cling to a marriage that doesn't make you happy and is a serious problem.
Step 6
If divorce is not your plan, try to become financially independent from your husband, especially if he reproaches you with money. If you do not have any professional education, complete any courses, for example, in landscape design or manicure and nail extension. Prove to your husband your independence, the ability to live without him.
Step 7
Do not provoke your husband into a boorish and consumerist attitude with your excessive obedience, gentleness, reliability. Quite often, women, pleasing and indulging their spouse in everything, themselves make him a despot and a tyrant.
Step 8
Do not cultivate your fears and complexes, remember that the 21st century is outside the window and all people are equal in their rights. Defend your point of view when communicating with your husband, strive for independence and independence, demand respect for yourself. And remember that there are simply no perfect people on Earth, so you both have the right to make mistakes.
