"Lonely fathers" is a fairly frequent phenomenon in modern life. According to statistics, every eighth family is fathers raising their children without a mother. There are many reasons why a father has to raise a child alone. These are divorces, when, by a court decision, the child remains with the father, and the death of his wife, and the deprivation of the mother of parental rights.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, pull yourself together. Do not withdraw into yourself and do not become isolated in your loneliness. No need to build your own closed world. Seek advice from other women, family acquaintances, work colleagues and, of course, relatives.
Step 2
Feel free to contact social services with your concerns. Psychological support services exist in many cities. Look for like-minded people, make contact with fathers who find themselves in the same situation. There are groups of single fathers on all social networks, where you can find companions in misfortune in your city.
Step 3
Pay attention to your budget. The status of a single father has not yet been determined in many ways, and therefore many benefits and compensation due to single mothers will not be available to you. You may have to work somewhere.
Step 4
Cut back on men’s gatherings. Give your child all your free time. It is the father who is always the child's partner and advisor in games, support and support in difficult times. Remember, your baby is much more affected by separation from her mother than you are. Do not make him worry about frequent separation from you.
Step 5
If you still have to often be separated from your child because of the specifics of your work, do not forget to call him and write letters as often as possible. Bring souvenirs and tell about the places you have visited. The child should constantly feel your care, attention, love, even if you are far away.
Step 6
Do not limit communication with the mother, if she exists. No matter how difficult it is for you to communicate with your ex-wife, try not to pass this negativity on to your child. This is especially important for the son. The attitude towards the mother in the future will affect the attitude towards the female sex in general and towards the beloved woman in particular.
Step 7
You will have to take on women's responsibilities not only in the household, but also in the mental sphere. Create a friendly, emotional atmosphere in your home. Give your child more warmth, gentle caress.
Step 8
Feel free to hug him, show your feelings. Tactile sensations are very important for the formation of a child's sense of security and peace of mind. Without these "calf tenderness" the child will grow up callous, tough and unable to sympathize and empathize.
Step 9
Organize your regimen correctly. The child should go to bed on time, do homework on time and rest. Try to keep your rest mostly active and developing. Sports will be your reliable assistant. Sign up the child in the sports section, attend various competitions together. Build your team. This will bring you together and give you more points of contact.
Step 10
In addition to sports, other common interests are also important - music, films, books. Ask the child's opinion more often, do not refuse to communicate with him, referring to being busy. This will strengthen your relationship, create an atmosphere of trust and spiritual closeness.
