Can I raise my voice to a child and punish him? This question has always caused and continues to cause fierce controversy. Someone is sure that it is not only possible, but also necessary, refers to his own example: “Parents shouted and punished, but for my own benefit! And I grew up to be a good person. Others argue that screaming and punishment can only be used in extreme cases if the child is very guilty. And someone believes that in no case should you raise your voice or raise your hand to children. So is it possible to raise a child without screaming and punishing?
Why do parents scream at a child
The main task of parents is to become a real authority for the child. Raising voice and punishment in most cases is a sign of the lack of pedagogical abilities of the father and mother, their inability or unwillingness to achieve the love and respect of their child. If the parents in the eyes of the baby are not only "absolute protection", but also the highest authority, the personification of all that is good and bright in this world, the child will obey them without shouting, and even more so without punishment. Simply because he loves his parents and does not want to upset them.
But there are exceptions to any rule. In addition, every child goes through the so-called "age crises" when stubbornness and the likelihood of demonstrative disobedience and hysterics sharply increase. How can parents maintain self-control in such a situation?
How to avoid screaming and punishing
No parent, even the most loving, caring, and just parent, can be considered perfect. In addition, with fatigue, nervous tension, haste, disobedience, whims, especially tantrums, the child is very annoying. Therefore, parents are tempted to raise their voice at the baby or spank him. But you still need to overpower yourself.
The easiest and most effective way to deal with the same tantrums is to defiantly ignore. Once the baby finds out that his screams and tears have no effect, he will quickly calm down.
Some parents resort to a more radical, but also very effective method - they leave the child in an empty room with the words: "Now think about why you can't behave this way." Someone, at the first sign of hysteria, washes the baby with cold water. You can behave in different ways, the main thing is not to resort to corporal punishment.
After the child calms down, it is necessary to clearly and clearly explain to him that his behavior was unacceptable and upsetting for his parents, but they still love him and hope that he will no longer be so capricious.
When a child reaches such an age that he begins to understand the parental argumentation, it is necessary to explain in detail to him the meaning of your prohibitions and restrictions. So that the baby knows that mom and dad forbid him to do something not out of harm, but because it is dangerous for his health, for example. And remember that yelling at a child will not achieve the same result! Yes, perhaps he will stop demanding what he wants, crying, but you will not win authority.
