Surely you have witnessed such a picture: in the store the kid is capricious and moaning: “M-ah-ah, well, please, buy-and-and….”. To this the mother replies: "How tired of your whims!" And … it gives way.
After that, the mother usually complains that she cannot do anything about the whims of her beloved child. What can I say here? She has already done everything to make the child moody. She herself is to blame for indulging the whims of the baby, and at the same time does nothing to wean him from moaning and being capricious.
But children learn everything from their parents! Newborns, if they need anything, report this with a loud cry. As the baby grows up, he learns to control his voice. And he begins, like a real researcher, to experiment with his intonations. And because exactly how the parents react to one or another intonation of the child, it largely depends on whether he will use it in communication with them or not.
What is the most valuable thing for a baby in this world? Toys? Modern children have enough of them. Food? Kids get it anyway. Clothing? Most children are indifferent to clothes, or even hate it at all.
The most important and valuable thing for any child is love and affection.
Here the kid whimpered. (Remember: whining is not yet a requirement, this is just an experiment!) Mom immediately runs up to him, picks him up, regrets. What does the baby remember? "If you need to get your mother's affection and approval, you have to whimper!" Then the child will discover that by whims and crying, you can get something else useful from the parents.
What to do in such situations? Not to approach the child when he is crying? Of course you have to come up! Come up and, first of all, check if the baby really needs your help. If so, help is imperative. But if the crying of a child is caused by the fact that the child, for example, cannot reach the toy he likes, it is not worth giving him this toy, even if the whimpering turns into a loud cry. D = You need to try to distract the child's attention with another toy or interesting little thing, wait until he shows interest in it, and only then can you pick up the baby. This seemingly simple method works flawlessly!
In the event that the baby is already used to achieving everything with his whims, much more effort will have to be made to wean him from this manner. However, if you are patient enough and do not indulge the whims of the child, the result will not be long in coming.
