The daughter-in-law's relationship with the mother-in-law may not work out for many reasons. Very often, family relationships begin to crack after the birth of a child. The mother-in-law becomes a grandmother, more often appears in the house of the young, giving advice to the daughter-in-law on raising her grandson. According to the mother-in-law, she is more experienced, raised her son, knows everything and can.
In order not to aggravate the situation, it is necessary to develop tactics of communication with the husband's mother even before the baby is born. The first thing to start with is to understand who she is, your mother-in-law? Don't think that they are all the same. There are several common types.
Relationship with a young mother-in-law
If the mother-in-law is still young, good-looking, divorced, works a lot and fruitfully, then you need to prepare for the fact that after the birth of a child you may have a problem with whom to leave him sometimes. This mother-in-law is unlikely to burden herself with such work as sitting with her grandson. And not because she doesn't want to, she just doesn't have time for it. Positive in this situation can be considered the fact that she will not have time for advice to her daughter-in-law either.
Let's say the mother-in-law is married and feels well in this status. Relationships in this case will be more difficult to build. It's up to the young wife. A mother should always see that her son is treated kindly, fed, well-groomed. Therefore, she will appreciate the daughter-in-law's care for her own child, will love and will always be able to take care of her grandchildren, because she really knows how to do it.
A mother-in-law with whom it is difficult to get along
It is more difficult to have to converge with the mother-in-law, who looks like a hen. She spent her whole life fiddling with her son, abandoned, perhaps, for his sake, of her own female happiness. Such a woman is included in a young family in addition to her husband, considering herself the main person in the son's family. And she will not allow anyone to bring up her grandchildren, including parents. With such a mother-in-law, you need to be tolerant and attentive, it would be good to learn about the unfulfilled plans of her youth: timely, unobtrusive advice on fulfilling an unfulfilled dream may well become the starting point of those relationships that will save you and your grandchildren from unnecessary care.
A tyrannical mother-in-law is the worst option that can be. The requirement to obey her unconditionally will be obligatory for grandchildren. It is advisable to avoid scandals, otherwise relations with your husband will deteriorate, and you should also think about the baby's nervous system. It is better to disperse and meet only when necessary, do not forget to show signs of attention on holidays and birthdays. Such a mother-in-law will remember any inattention on your part.
It is advisable for the daughter-in-law to analyze both her own mistakes and miscalculations: you just need to start respecting the mother of her own husband, because she raised the man you love.
