Motherhood is both joy and work. Many mothers sometimes think about how to be "perfect" for their children? How to maintain harmony in family relationships? How not to get tired of raising children and find strength for your husband? There are simple rules that will help make life easier for mothers with children of any age.
Instructions
Step 1
First, convince yourself that you are a "good enough mom." You are not perfect, you will always have something to reproach yourself for. There is no need to chase the ideal, especially in attempts to "surpass" neighbors' families and girlfriends. You just have to feel and understand that you are doing everything in your power. Both extremes (both striving for the ideal and constant self-flagellation "what a bad mother I am") are not at all useful for the psyche of both mother and children.
Step 2
You don't have to sacrifice your whole life for your children. No one will appreciate such a sacrifice. Worse, when the children grow up, you yourself will reproach them for the fact that "you are all for their sake, and in return, ingratitude." Nobody demands such a sacrifice from you. Part of your life should be yours alone. Which part it will be is up to you. You should keep your hobbies, hobbies, friends. Will you devote to "time for yourself" only an evening a week or it will be several hours every day - this is your freedom of choice. However, it is not worthwhile to allocate this time according to the leftover principle: "I will have time to do everything with the children, I will go to a meeting with my friends." No, your meeting should be planned, but how to allocate time for it - let the husband think, and not just you.
Step 3
If you go to work and spend little time with your baby, improve the quality of the content of this time. When you are with your child, really pay attention to him. Let it not be all day, but only an hour or two in the evening. But for these few hours, put your phone away, turn off the TV and forget about all extraneous worries. Believe me, the child will definitely appreciate your involvement. So spending time with him is much more interesting and rewarding than just being around all day, but with your thoughts to be in a completely different place.
Step 4
Do not overload the child with a huge number of circles, sections and developmental activities. Choose carefully what will benefit your child's development. Don't just keep busy with these activities all day. Independent games at home, just communication with children on the playground are also very necessary for the harmonious development of the baby.
Step 5
Don't forget about your husband. Regardless of the child's age, there is a part of family life that has nothing to do with them - marital relations. Make sure to make time for each other. However, you should not take this time as a "holiday from children". This is not a very healthy attitude towards your own children. It is clear that we all sometimes get tired of our own children. But if you fix your attention on fatigue, do not be surprised that soon the children will begin to perceive themselves as your burden, something superfluous in the family.
Step 6
Your time with your husband is the time to enjoy your communication, remember why you love each other; and of course it's time to have sex. It is worth noting that the recent fashion for the joint sleep of children with their parents just introduces disharmony in the relationship of spouses. It's one thing when it comes to a baby who needs to be breastfed at night. It is completely different when the child is soon to school, and he is still in the matrimonial bed. And this is not only about the fact that the child in the matrimonial bed does not allow sex there. Indeed, in the apartment you can find many other interesting places for this. It is just that sometimes a child in a conjugal bed begins to oust her husband from there, both physically and psychologically, taking his place next to the woman. As always, you should not go to extremes: the child should sleep exclusively in his own bed, or let him sleep with us until he wants to leave himself. The situations are different. Analyze your family life from the perspective of not only how it will be best for the child, but also so that everyone is comfortable, that is, you and your husband too.
Step 7
Take responsibility for your family. Remember that you set rules, boundaries for children and give them freedom where possible. It is you who make the decisions, not the children or counselors. You are also responsible for the consequences of the decisions made. But this way you will feel that the situation is under your control, and does not develop spontaneously in an incomprehensible direction.
