If a man shows you unambiguous signs of attention, speaks directly about his interest, but you do not perceive him as a sexual partner, then you need to tell him about it. This is necessary so as not to put him in a stupid position, as your silence will be accepted as encouragement. And the sooner you do it, the better.
Instructions
Step 1
If a proposal for a closer relationship has already been received, then there is no need to lie and use some temporary reasons for refusal. In order not to put a man in a stupid position and not offend his pride, it is better to say right away that you do not want any sexual relations, not only with him, but in general. Explain this to a recent strong passion or some kind of emotional shock. He will understand that the reason is not in him and will not be offended by you.
Step 2
You can also say that you are not free by referring to a loved one who lives in another city. All of this will be difficult to verify. You can offer companionship, but most likely, your boyfriend will refuse it, respecting your feelings for the other.
Step 3
You can motivate the refusal by the fact that you need a serious long-term relationship and you need to get used to the fact that he will be there. This can scare a frivolous partner and make him stay away from you. Well, those who are serious should be given a chance to prove themselves - perhaps you will be able to see and appreciate this person over time.
Step 4
Refer to friendly, sisterly feelings for this person if you have known each other for a long time. Explain how highly you value him and how you need him, namely friendly, support. The concept of friendship in the eyes of men is sacred, so he, most likely, will not only not take offense at you, but will also try not to disappoint. If you add at the same time that he is a wonderful person and deserves happiness, which, alas, you cannot give him, then he will even be touched and grateful for such a high assessment of his merits.
