Re-marriages are no longer a rarity, and often with a new spouse you get a whole family. A step child in such circumstances may feel unnecessary, and you will have to fight it. Raising children other than your own is a difficult process that will last for years, and which you must cope with for the sake of your love.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not differentiate between a natural child and a step child. This is the first rule you need to learn. It is impossible to treat better, as well as worse, neither to our own, nor to someone else's. Children should receive the same portion of care, love, and all material benefits.
Step 2
Communicate more with the whole family. To establish close contact with the step child, try to maintain constant communication between all family members. Have dinner only when everyone is at home, walk in the park or go to the forest, go to the movies and cafes. In general, live a full life in which there is a place for everyone. The child must feel needed.
Step 3
Show care, love and affection for your child, without emphasizing that he is not yours. The ideal option is to treat him like his own, but not every adult is capable of this. However, try to be a good parent. Hugging, patting the head, helping with homework or solving personal problems can all bring you closer together and let your child know that you really want to be a loved one.
Step 4
Adhere to a single parenting line with the baby's parent. You need to talk about this with the mom or dad of the child. Your views on parenting must be identical, otherwise disagreements will confuse the child. The authority of a loved one will come to the fore, and you will be left behind.
Step 5
Control your anger and be patient. Perhaps you will often hear phrases that “you are nobody and have no right to be raised” (more often from teenagers). These hurtful words will hurt you, but you will have to endure and not break down in screaming. Calmly explain that you are not pretending to be a father or mother, but simply want to help and become a loved one for the child.
